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[2016-04-08 18:52:11 +0000 UTC]
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# Statistics
Favourites: 1562; Deviations: 147; Watchers: 388
Watching: 101; Pageviews: 54012; Comments Made: 2521; Friends: 101
# Interests
Favorite visual artist: n/aFavorite movies: Spirited Away
Favorite TV shows: Haikyuu!! / Yuri!! on Ice
Favorite bands / musical artists: Mumford and Sons
Favorite books: Variant/Feedback
Favorite writers: Edgar Allen Poe
Favorite games: Dragon's Prophet
Favorite gaming platform: Computer
Tools of the Trade: Points
Other Interests: Animation
# Comments
Comments: 884
Hey there! Please refrain from commenting on my page, reply to this instead so people are able to see this message!!
Please put what has happened behind, and Sea did nothing wrong. We are no longer dating, some people may find that to be a lie or whatever, but no.
Anyways, I'm taking a break for a bit so I can calm down a bit. I'm not calling for a pity party, I just need some time alone to get my life back in order
I will still be on skype but dA is a no go
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Have some Free Art too for your Special Day
(Post made in advance)
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Well hello, fellow colossal.
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SoRRY I ACCIDENTALLY UNWATCHED U BRO
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sorry pal but it wasnt healthy and u knew it
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Im sorry to hear that but it really wasnt healthy...
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I'm sorry that it came to that
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I'm really happy to hear that, and I'm sorry you've gotten so much horrible shit for this, it isn't your fault.
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listen, i dont really know you or anything, but i do know that this, this "relationship" is not okay.
it is not legal, no matter what anyone will tell you, it is not legal
this may seem not helpful at all, but you need to understand that everyone commenting is trying to warn you
sea should know better then to do this, sea is an adult, they should know better then to engage in a romantic relationship with a minor
and im sorry, you may say its "love" but its really not.
sea could go to jail for this,
if you really care for sea or "love" them as much as you say you do, then you need to stop this.
you need to take a step back, and consider what you are doing.
so many people have come forward to you, warning you, and you still dont see why this is not right
its not legal, and you need to face that fact
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Youre not helping, it's not this persons fault that they're being taken advantage of. Post this shit on the adults page.
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Yeah i'm sorry it was just a joke but like it was wrong that she was dating a adult, thats like as if it was my parent or something. Yeah I should of put that on the adults page.
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what the fuck is wrong with you
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woah man it was a joke
i got sent it and thought it fit the situation
no hard feelings uwu
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when i clicked it, it just said there was malicious content nn
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hm i didn't know that, it doesn't show up on mobile
but anyways
didn't mean it in a harmful way, sorry about your breakup but, although it may not seem like it, i know you'll find someone twice as better in the future along with some amazing friends and supporters
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And really quick I gotta say this too:
If this person says something like "These people just dont understand our love"?
That's total nonsense. That phrase is NOTHING in the face of all these testimonials of people who were used and manipulated by adults when they were younger.
Gonna say this for the millionth time, but the reason this person picked you to be in a relationship with is likely because most adults have been manipulated before and know the warning signs, whereas it likely hasn't happened yet to younger people.
Saying weird fluffy phrases that flatter you but don't stand up to real evidence is one of the warning signs. Please be on the lookout for this, it's unfair to demand for you to have a sharp eye for it but sadly there's not much else you can do.
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hon please please please reconsider this. if your parents or any other responsible authority figures in your life found out about you dating a 20 year old they would call the cops. they would legitimately call the cops and have the person you're "dating" arrested. or at the very least keep you off of the internet.
this is wrong. this is so so wrong.
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listen to the people
they may not be conveying their point in the most calm way but
they're right
you and/or sea could go to jail
and i really don't want that, neither do you
if you really want to satisfy everyone, tell your parents
if they say it's okay, you're right and if not, you're wrong
i know you guys "love" each other but it's really not legal and also kind of scary
sea is only a couple of years younger than my mom
think about that
your girlfriend is almost the same age as a thirteen, same as you, year old's mom
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Look dear before you block me because someone tells you too let me just say people are concerned for a reason. They care. I don't know you but I know what it's like to be your age. It's not safe, no matter how well you know the person. At 20 years of age you shouldn't be dating someone who is 13.
I know you will do what you think is right. Just be safe and make safe decisions.
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Here's a list to copy and paste to your block list!~
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Tepig
Scrumpii
TheTinyWolf
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i feel left out add me
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What do you mean add you?
Sure thing.
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I'm not here to harass or attack you at all, but I do have a say in the matter of this.
I know you both love each other, and will defend your relationship to god knows ends, but, from personal experience, it's not healthy.
When I was your age, about 4 years ago, I was attracted to a 20 year old and constantly other adults were attracted to me, hell even when i was 9 a pervert on omegele got me do something lewd for them because of this: I didn't know what I was doing, but the adults did.
Now that I have told you my personal experience, let me continue.
Your relationship is considered legal. Do I agree you two should be dating? Of course not, because , no offense at all just physiological fact, you're not fully developed and going through or soon to be going through, a stage where you want someone to cover your insecurities. Your partner is old enough to realize this, and frankly I don't know why everyone is attacking you, when they could be having a serious conversation with one closer to everyones age that has matured physically and mentally.
This isn't a ' love is love!' type thing, Your partner is 7 years older then you, and while that's not a problem to anyone really when you're 20+ , it is a problem now because you are a growing child still, while your partner is a year so away from drinking and can drive their car.
And i'm sorry, I don't know you both very well so forgive me if this seems out of touch, but even if you've known someone since they're 17/18 , you two are now dating and sexual activity isn't going to wait 3 more years ( at the very least). You can defend this all you like, but with you growing and your body maturing , along with puberty and such, it'll end up in that way.
a slip out of any sorts, and your partner can go to jail. IF your parents find out your partner could likely go to jail or you will get into some serious trouble. This isn't a middle school relationship, you're dating someone who can drive, get a job and is near the age of drinking.
I'm not trying to sound aggressive or anything at all nor am I 'judging ' you. But everyone has the right to be worried because this is a online relationship with a adult while you're a minor. Theres a lot of issues that could happen just by your partner being 20 and you being 13. ( one im going to tell you because i happened to me nd my boyfriend, because im still considered a minor and hes a ''adult'' is that when you guys meet, if you try to leave with your parents giving permission, your gf can be arrested for kidnapping, no matter how much consent or where you go. )
THink about each other for a second, please, IF you both really love each other call the relationship off and wait. You can still be friends and stuff but is a relationship, with so many laws that could get your gf arrested after a slip up, really worth it now?
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Moonkitti is right. I run this club where a girl who was 13 was dating a 20 year old. I was 15 when his happened and knew it wasn't a good idea. Granted, I don't know all of what's going on right now, but I get most of it. It may be harmless now, but people are unpredictable. You never know what someone is going to do. Especially to a child who isn't fully developed mentally yet.
Until I learn more of what's going on, I'll save the rest of my opinion on this. I'm just saying Moonkitti is making a good point, and people are still unpredictable no matter what.
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A child cannot consent. A 13 year old is a child. You think it's fine and normal, but it isn't. For someone to even be interested in or open to dating a child is wrong.
This is messed up, and as an adult, Sea should know it is. And before you comment with "you have no right to judge this" consider: I'm 23. I've seen this shit before. It's never a good idea. It makes children more open to dating adults that would take advantage of them. And this whole "waiting until they're 18" thing really rubs me the wrong way, seeing as iof or not thats how it was intended, it's how a lot of people talk then they're basically grooming a child.
I don't give a heck if it's sexual or not. I don't give a heck how nice and kind and lovely Sea is.
In fact, I dare you to find an adult in this community who doesn't have a problem with this. Someone who isn't physically uncomfortable with the fact that a minor-- one who is barely even a teenager-- is in a relationship with a college age adult.
Of course I don't know these people. Most people here don't. But that's not the problem. If or not one party is nice and respectful, if or not they're 'in love', if or not they're looking out for eachother or waiting for eachother-- this relationship is not okay.
This is affecting me by making me sick that anyone needs to tell all of you that this is wrong.
-Moonkitti (If I'm popular, maybe you'll take my opinion more seriously)
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This is a great post, it really tackled all the necessary points. I'd post something more, but Loyal has said it's over.
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since i was blocked by the kid that thinks they've seen enough of the world to know the impacts of being a CSA victim, lemme just keep screaming until i piss people off that support this illegal, and unlawful in nature relationship.
what sea is doing is wrong. sea should consider that this age gap is illegal, and it always will be. romantic attraction is illegal, sexual attraction is illegal, being in a relationship with a 13 year old and being a 20 year old, fully developed individual, capable of making their own decisions is wrong.
and i'm very much so disappointed that sea thinks this is a healthy, fun relationship. no matter what you do, you are still engaging in a romantic relationship with a child. if you had loyal's wellbeing in mind, you would not engage on such a level. seeing a 13 year old in a romantic appeal, is quite sickening. and i hope that loyal's parental figures are brought into the light, or at least this relationship comes to an end.
i'm glad moonkitti brought more light to this situation, because this is a child's mental and physical health on the lines. i myself, as a csa victim find sea's actions sickening. and i fucking mean sickening. i am utterly revolted that you, as an adult, think this relationship is uwu cute uwu. it's wrong, and sea will be hurting loyal regardless of the actions taken.
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I top am a CSA victim. Thank you for speaking out
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They blocked me as well. It's sad. I hate to say at 13 I would fight everyone too probably lol but this situation is wrong.
Hopefully the person will see that and really think about everything.
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I just posted a comment but I'm gonna reply and summarize the points because there's good reason people are passionate about trying to stop this before it gets ugly. Good god I'm sorry this came out so long but IM VERY VERY VERY INVESTED in doing the best I can to make sure that no one gets hurt.
Loyal absolutely is a person who has a mind of her own. I'm very sorry if many of these people accidentally patronize them, and I can see how it can come across as patronizing being called a child. I know that pissed me off when I was 13.
The core issue is that there's like... A sort of set of experiences most people have growing up, and Loyal hasn't had some of them yet. I feel that most people as they grow up come across someone who tries to use and manipulate them, and sometimes they go through hell on earth before they realize there's something wrong and can start to put themselves back together.
I've had a LOT of manipulative people in my life. I swear I have all the warning signs down pat by now, good lord. They are ALWAYS the NICEST people at first. They're cool, you want to get to know them, and for the first year or two? Everything's great. They're your BFF and there's basically no way to differentiate them from someone who's actually a nice person. You'd swear up and down and leap off a cliff if they told to, because that's what friends do.
And when the manipulation finally starts to show up? It's extremely subtle. Unless you've seen it a thousand times before, you wouldn't even know it's manipulation until they're using up every last bit of your loyalty and pushing you to your breaking point. Repeatedly. And EVEN THEN you'd swear everythings fine! It's not like in movies where everythings abuse and horrible 100% of the time. It cycles from "absolutely fantastic" to "hell on earth" to "I'll never do it again", and back to "absolutely fantastic".
As for what makes people so sure that this is what Loyals 'partner' is trying to do...
Like I said before, most adults have seen this shit before and they put a stop do it before it goes down the very sad cliff of abuse. But when you're younger? You probably haven't seen this before. It's like a nice clean slate for them to settle down and start the cycle again. That's why they struggle to find a relationship with other adults, and have turned to someone who so far hasn't had to deal with this kind of behavior.
There's otherwise very little reason an adult would want to be in a relationship with someone so different from themselves. You're always a VERY different person as an adult as opposed to when you were 13. Decent adults KNOW better than to start a relationship with a younger person because younger people always have better things to do than spend their time shaping themselves to be the Perfect Partner.
I know you're friends with this adult but please, for your own sake. Look at them with an EXTREMELY critical eye, because I've seen this time and time again and it's nothing but a train wreck of misery. All the 'cool adults' I'd befriended when I was younger ALL turned out to be totally batshit, and its so much safer to assume the worst in this situation to keep yourself from getting hurt.
Like I literally snuck out of my house to meet up with an adult when I was little. I'm BEYOND lucky that while this person was a total douche they weren't at least a kidnapping douche. And just because they wouldn't kidnap me doesn't make them a decent person you gotta have higher standards than that.
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I know you trust this adult very much, and it's hard to think that there's anything wrong with a relationship between two people who love eachother, but sea is 20 years old. She is an adult who shouldn't be, and knows better than to date a child. If she cares about Loyal, she should understand for Loyal's wellbeing that she should not be in a relationship with her.
And as an adult, she should know that. Even if this is what Loyal wants. It's not wrong of Loyal to be in this situation, it's wrong of Sea. And that's why I'm directing this over Loyal's head.
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thank you for being the voice of reason in this fucking ordeal
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Sorry gonna piggyback on this if you don't mind! But I promise there's a good reason this person is turning to you as an object of affection, and it has to do with the whole "no adult is okay with this" line.
It's because there's absolutely something wrong with this person if they can't find a partner that's their own age, and they decide to turn to a kid who's identity changes easily (I don't mean to put you down when I say this, but I changed a LOT growing up and most people do too) instead of changing something about themselves to be in a better, healthy relationship instead with someone closer to their own age. There's something they're doing that adults who've seen this shit before will put a stop to, so they've turned to someone who hasn't had these experiences so they can continue to be manipulative.
They'd rather take you and literally change YOU to suit THEIR needs, and it's not going to be obvious. In a perfect world you'd see someone like this coming from a mile away, but they disguise themselves as the nicest people and slowly over time start to show their true nature. It's confusing and horrifying and it's going to get harder and harder to realize something's wrong the longer this goes.
It should never be on your shoulders to stop something like this dead in its tracks before it goes down a very steep cliff. I hope from the bottom of my heart that the adult in this situation will see reason and step down before they hurt you intentionally or not. But I've yet to see someone who's willing to hurt others like this wake up and see reason.
You're allowed to stop any friendship or relationship if the other person is giving you bad vibes. Relationships are extremely difficult and tricky and honestly, you have far better things to be doing your age than wasting it away trying to impress others.
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Look, I'm not going to pull the 'love is love' card on you much, but read this.
If you're popular, it makes me actually sick that you think that it makes you more reliable.
This community is online, Jones. Nobody here, unless proven, will be a lawyer,
or even an attorney.
"There are no laws concerning non sexual relationships between a minor and an adult."
"There are no longer any legal subject concerns as long as intercourse isn't in contact."
As for the laws they probably state you cant be with her, although i haven't even a notion about what they say. I personally disagree with any law restricting love because frankly, love is abstract in every thinkable way. God made it where a boy and girl can fall in love, not a boy and girl above age so-and-so will fall in love. Who has the right to say someone isn't in love other than that person? Besides 50% of marriages cease in divorce, so the adults saying they know love better than everyone else, obviously, don't. Now I'm not saying all adults can't figure it out, all I'm saying is minors should decide who they date.
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It being legal doesn't make it any less nasty. It doesn't make it any less wrong.
So what you're saying is that incest is okay to you? Pedophilia is okay to you? You clearly don't understand anything about abuse. People aren't opposing this for no reason, they're opposing this because if or not the child in this relationship "consents" to it, it doesn't change that the adult, knowingly or unknowingly is taking advantage of them.
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It's not sexual, so how is it nasty?
I couldn't care less what people do in relationships, just as long as they're legal and not judged for it. How is Sea taking advantage of anyone if
a. it's an online relationship
and
b. if there is no reason for consent as they're not having sex
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Okay so as a victim of emotional and physical CSA let me tell you: it's nasty because of the emotional power imbalance between a child and an adult.
My friend who was in an online relationship with an 18 y/o when she was 13 and has had this exact life experience has agreed with me on this before and thinks that adults who date children are sick. Her relationship wasn't sexual, either, but IT FUCKED HER UP REALLY BAD and desensitised her to abuse- which paved the way to her getting raped by her next boyfriend and thinking it was acceptable. Not nice to hear and most people try to skirt around the word, but that's what's in the future if people don't take these relationships seriously: rape.
Hey, maybe we'll get lucky this time though, right? Maybe this is the miracle exception that won't leave the kid in a broken situation (hint: it's not).
Kids are treated a certain way; and it shows in their behaviour. They're told to view adults as authority figures and do as they say. Think about teachers in school; most of the students are taught not to question authority ... and what's authority to a child? Most adults. As a teen you probably won't even realise it: it's conditioned into us and we don't start to learn how to deal with it until our late teens/early twenties.
A child (and even some new adults) subconsciously apply this into relationships with older partners. No matter how much you don't want to believe it nor how much they don't want to have it, an older person holds a position of power over those under 18. Because of this, accidental (and deliberate) manipulation occurs that desensitises the minor to abuse. It can be things as simple as the minor not speaking their opinion because "the adult has more experience in this thing they've done it before" that becomes a habit and leads to the minor learning to be complacent with abuse.
I'm gonna be brief because this is already long but the sum of it is: by justifying an adult having a non-sexual relationship with a minor, you're justifying the power imbalance that lead to physical sexual assault. And even if ONE minor is emotionally equiped to deal with it, making exceptions for child/adult relationships makes pedophiles feel justified because hey, THEIR relationship is probably one of the exceptions, too! So it's better to have a "no exceptions" rule that makes people wait a few years before they date, than knowingly justify people who assault children, right?
Also as a 20 year old I know what it's like from the adult's perspective: a 13 year old is a child. They look like one, they act like one- it does NOT feel the same as talking to another adult.
I hold power over my friends who are under 18 and no matter how much I try to be lax and un-authoritative, it DOES show. THEY don't notice it because they're conditioned to accept it; I notice because other adults don't treat me this way and it's a thing that only minors do. I also notice because adults have started treating me differently since I became an adult and I realise I was accepting adults=authority without even realising: even when I often DENIED it as a teen it was still in the back of my mind.
That's why it's nasty, bro.
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In some places in america it's legal to eat animals alive
a. They are taking advantage of them by being an adult, while they are a child, and therefor are more aware, intelligent, and in a position where they can more easily manipulate the other party. It does not matter that it's an online relationship.
b. I say that in that you cannot argue that a relationship is "consensual" between an adult and a minor. This all falls on Sea. Loyal very likely doesn't know better.
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Good for you.
a. If they're not taking advantage, then they're not.
b. I say that you cannot argue whether this relationship
is right or wrong. Sea most likely knows better than you.
Loyal can handle themselves more than you think.
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If Sea knew better than me, or cared about Loyal, she would know better than to be dating her, and would be discouraging a relationship with her. That's just what this comes down to. Responsible adults do not date 13 year old children.
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Responsible adults do not judge people
because they don't know what the fuck
they're doing.
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