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How to keep your friends with you, the DOs and DON'Ts, the cold hard truth, and how to deal with all the lemons and limes and any sour citrus fruit life throws at you.

WARNING

NOT EVERYTHING IN THIS JOURNAL IS JUSTIFIED, YOU DON'T NEED TO LISTEN TO ME BUT IF YOU WANNA THEN GO AHEAD _(:3_

Let's get real here, okay?

Life sucks nowadays, we all know it. We all gotta admit it.

No matter how rich, prosperous, well damned blessed you are in life, there will be stages where it just purely sucks.

Does it suck even more when you're poor, a hobo, homeless, cursed with an ugly bed hair and abundant amount of pimples during puberty since birth??

Whoopsss, hold your answers right there. Cause this is where there's no such thing as right or wrong.

From a general point of view, most people will always think that their own life sucks the most.

Oh, you're depressed because you're not doing well in school? You're depressed because your parents are jerks and they don't understand you???

WELL I SAY GO ON AND BE DEPRESSED BOUT IT, thumbs up to you and your sucky life. It's human nature to get down and blue over things that upsets us anyway so why fight the instinct. Yea?

You may sit and potate on your couch, mope around over the idea of how no one will ever probably understand you and that you might die of old age, all alone, sad and wrinkly,

You're not happy about your life, and everyone keeps telling you to try harder.

"I've tried my best".

WRONG

Don't ever get too proud of yourself coz, dearie, let me tell you. Your best is NEVER enough.

Because why?

Again, life, human expectations, everything in general. SUCKS.

Once you stepped into that forbidden zone of temporary self satisfaction, you're doomed. No one ever tells you that, huh?It's okay, you've done your best, they said :')) YEA, SURE. ONLY TEMPORARILY. People will keep expecting things from you so you'll always be pressured to strive for more. You're not perfect now, and you never will be. There's no such thing as perfection. It doesn't exist. But you'll still get kicked in the ass by society if you don't keep aiming for perfection.

By this point, if you're chickening out, you may close the window and pretend you never read this.

So how should we get through life without choking ourselves halfway??

This is where socializing part comes. Find some friends or acquaintance you can talk to and consult with. Tell them your problems when you need someone to help you face them.

But careful there dearie, don't just drench everyone with your life story and expect them to give you candies and make you feel better. Don't naturally expect people to be nice to you all the time.

Some people may be harsh to you instead and tell you to suck it up and grow up. What are you, 5 years old and needing someone to hug you and say the sun'll come out tomorrow?? Ha, for all you know it'll storm and be dark and gloomy.

But after all those trauma of making bad attempts to befriend someone,

you should never ever push others away

some very rare existence will try to approach you and make you feel better, but hey, you're too bitter about life to care about what they say at this point and would rather just let them know you're gonna be forever upset, the end, they should stop bothering you and should stop trying to cheer you up. You'll whine and mope, and whine and mope more, while secretly wishing they'll put up with it because you forever need them to say nice things to you.

LET MOI TELL YOU SOMETHING.

It's T.I.R.I.N.G to deal with someone who complains all the time. Seriously, people shouldn't take kindness for granted because unlike life's lemon, it has an expiry date and you only get so much portion of patience out of someone in a lifetime.

"Everyone's just faking it."

Please, if I'm that good at faking that I actually care, I'd be either a pope or a saint by now coz I'd be so damn nice.

Personally, I don't think anyone will bother faking care for more than three days to someone they don't give a sh*t about.

So when someone finally gives up on you, stop blaming them, and start looking at yourself.

Did they stopped trying, or were you the one who gave up on yourself first?

"I can never be better"

"I don't have what it takes"

"I'll never catch up to everyone else"

If you keep doing that, well, damn, I'm not surprised your friends ran off to the other side of the globe. Did you ever realize that a person only have 24 hours in a day where they have to carry on with their own life, probably worrying about their own future, probably dealing with their own share of lemons.....and they still gotta cramp in trying to convince you that you'll see a better tomorrow for every second???

I mean, if they stop replying for a while, surely you'll go nuts like "omg they're not replying they're sick of me here let me amp up my emo"

NOO, NO NO NO NONO.

Dealing with fragile people is like taking care of a fish in a tiny rice bowl.

You gotta keep your eyes on it or it'll jump out of the water and byebye.

You have to know that the only thing REAL friend wants out of you is for you to be a better version of yourself. Real friends want to support you, they like watching you improve, they want their friends to be an awesome person so they can brag about it to everyone like doting parents. SO if they tell you something, scold you or criticize you, OPEN UP THOSE EARDRUMS AND START USING THOSE GAZILLIONS LEFTOVER BRAIN CELLS.

To get real friend(s), there are a few things you must do.

01. Get a friend
I mean, to make noodles, you'll need the ingredients first, Duh. Get to know each other, warm up to communicating, get comfortableeee, fluffy stuffs like that.

02. Be bestiest
Get matching bracelets/ t-shirts/ other stuffs within the realm of that. Get to that one stage above normal friends and just be completely cool with each other. You can start your subtle heart to heart gossiping by this stage but don't take it too far.

03. Be honest to real friend candidate, stage one
Everything, spill it out. Open up. Let them see how weird/scary/moody you can get. If they get scared and run away, find the next candidate.

04. Get in fights
Yes, argue, yank each others' hair out, steal their underwear, eat their food, make them wanna kill you. If they still stick with you after that, you're getting closer to having a real friend.

05. Be honest, stage two
Tell them everrrything you don't like about them..slowly. If they can take what you think of them and not slap you in the face and totally hate you for it, brava.

06. Let them judge you
Oh come on, after #5, your friend deserved a chance for revenge. Take it all in, breathe it in like it's oxygen.

07. Set private space
After you're done with all of the above, it is time to finally stop sticking like a glue to your friend. Good friends that last long should be like two same sides of the magnet repelling each other while trapped in a tiny tiny capsule. Like, you have space but you're never really away from each other. If there's something you or your friend want to keep as secrets from one another, let it be. After two stages of honest sessions, you should know it's their right to keep it to themselves if it's that important and if it's completeeely none of your business. You're not their life partner, get out. If there's something they wanna tell you, they will.

ONCE you have a real friend, life should suck a bit less. You'll have someone to depend on whenever you're in need. But hey, remember, friendship is a give and take thing. Pay attention to your friend as how they've paid their attention to you.

BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT
If you can't be bothered to do all that and rather be a loner, which is completely understandable, keep this in mind.

Go YOLO. Not as in do stupid things and escape with that reason, but think about things more carefully.

You only get to live once, it's one lifetime anddd done.

In the end, with or without friends, you're the only one who gets to determine how much life will suck for you.

If life is depressing as it is, stop making it worse for yourself.

Don't blow things out of proportion, don't make simple things complicated. Stop beating yourself up more and stop digging your own grave.

Let go of the weights you don't need. When someone tells you something, don't argue. Make it easier for everyone, including yourself. You can always listen to what they say, but it doesn't mean you have to take it to heart.

If it's something you don't like, then just pay no attention to it. Don't give a f*ck. Just smile on the outside.

There are many others out there with the same problems as you, and it helps just a little bit whenever you tell yourself that "oh, maybe it's not so bad for me" I mean, come on, world starvation, no clean water, forests dying??? maann we're lucky we have internet to read this right now

People can only bring you down if you let them.

And once you let them, you don't get the privilege to whine about it.

Because it won't be anyone else's fault.

You don't get to blame others for how awful you feel about yourself.

Everyone's life sucks, and once you tell yourself that your life sucks the most, that's it then.

Once you've given up on yourself, others will too.

Bear in mind that the way you view yourself affects how others view you.

Because the world is not a wonderful place full of rainbows and ponies.

Because the world. and life. sucks.

and nothing will change if you ain't gonna do shit bout it

whoops, uncensored myself.