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Demachic — Can I Switch my Caring OFF?
Published: 2012-09-24 23:10:06 +0000 UTC; Views: 41492; Favourites: 3446; Downloads: 0
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Follow up to:Simple style tonight, I'm feelin down bout this.
I went ahead and spoke to them but it felt weird. They told me why they were acting like they were, and I didn't do anything wrong - I understand why they were behaving that way but I'm pretty hurt.
It feels like they weren't telling me something, but we ran out of time to speak so I don't even know how to restart the conversation to see what more there was to it.
Shows how much they care, really. I care for them still, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered about it, but I kinda wish I didn't care at all at this stage. :/ I just want to figure it out and make this work but I don't know if they do.
If they don't, that's fine, but if they do I wanna know, otherwise I'll stop investing my time and energy in it.
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I had reached my wits end this helped me get back on my feet miracles really do exist just think of all the possibilities
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Only once the switch is turned off you gotta learn to turn it back on.
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You should listen to Turn it Off from Book of Mormon
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I am sorry for spamming your notifications with faves.
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i had this guy i really liked. y'know, "love is blind". recently found out he didnt care much for me. and i got really really sad. it is so weird to be sitting next to someone you really have strong feelings about, but for them to not know it not have any feelings at all about you. :/
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we can only wish we could do that.. sometimes i feel like i shouldnt care for anyone. cuz im so tired of caring 4 ppl even tho they end up hurting u and then it turns out that u still care 4 them even tho they hurt u.. thats wen it hurts the most. when u realize, ur the only one that still cares. .
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This very neatly sums up things I've spent hours thinking about. If only real life were that simple, just imagine how much sadness might this magical switch would have saved everybody. If only
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Pretty much sounds like something I told my "friend" recently. She is not my friend anymore because it just seemed like she never cared for what I had to say or about me at all. I couldn't stand it anymore and we are falling apart more and more everyday. She may not think so, but in my mind I still hate her. I don't really like to, but I'm keeping the anger towards her in my head anyway.
This is a very strong poem. Great work. It's sad, but I sometimes feel the same way. You'll Never Walk Alone ♥
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... I go through that same feeling with some of my "friends"
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Seriously, you don't deserve that.
No one does
-big hugs-
You can just learn from it and move on <3
You deserve heck of a LOT better friends
<3
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:C I hope you're okay. I know how it feels.
I remember...I helped all of my friends, a year ago or something, always being the 2AM call. Soon as I needed help...BAM! Nobody cared.
Stay strong C:
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absolutely right x sometimes you get so wrapped up in your anxieties for other peoples problems that you forget to focus on your own. Then, when it comes to sorting through your own problems, where are they? Loads of people stab you in the back, even after everything you've done for them, so just learn from it and don't bother caring again, I say!
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I think everyone goes through something similer to this at least once in life, and I believe that everyone has there own way of getting through it. To show that you still care even when she dosen't states that you are a better person and can get through this. If you succeed, then good for you. If not, then she doesn't deserve you.
Remember, you only need those who need you.
Good luck ^_^
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Thank you very much - and you're right too!
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Sadly, emotion just isn't that easy to control. Even when my best friend suddenly ditched me because I became confused about my orientation in high school, and she really hurt me... even after all these years, I still care enough to hate her for what she did.
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That's the thing! If you still use energy to feel some form of emotion toward them, good or bad, you still care, don't you? 
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It's true, if the memory of them still gets a strong reaction from you of any kind... It can only mean that you still care, one way or another, whether you like it or not. It sucks, but that's just how it is sometimes.
Thanks for that, but it's okay. I got a new best friend a couple of years later, and we're much closer than I ever was to the first one. Ironically, I heard a few months ago that the first girl had actually confessed to being in love with my new best friend, another girl. Talk about being a hypocrite. O.o
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Can I share it somewhere else with translation? Really love the idea.
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pretty much me with people....... except i can turn my caring off for the most part.
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I'm feeling like that with one of my friends... Or former friend right now... I wish I could stop loving him but I can't.
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bro, i feel the same way about someone right now. im in pain
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/siigh. i feel like its always the nice people that get walked all over >:
i can't even count how many times something similar has happened to me
i know its easier said than done, but people like that aren't worth all the emotional stress, best to just move on and let them be. the funniest part is once you get over them they usually come crawling back wondering why you don't pay attention to them anymore
hope things get better for you <3
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haha, that does happen sometimes, doesn't it!? 
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I live the exact same thing right now...aweful feeling.
Ps i love the choice of color
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I'm sorry to hear that
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Exactly what I've been feeling, put absolutely perfectly. Well done. For me I think what made it hard was not wanting to believe a friend would act that way, would be uncaring, and even deliberately hurtful. I kept arguing against the reality of that, since I didn't want it to be true. What helped me a lot was when I stopped being in denial and accepted the truth of the situation. There's a quote by Maya Angelou, "the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them". Well, it took me being shown more than once before I believed, but once I did it made a world of difference. I feel like when people stop caring, and treat me badly, and like in cour case say I didn't do anything wrong, then they're showing me who they are. And personally I'm not interested in people like that. As soon as I realized that they'd shown me who they were, and I believed them, and it wasn't nice at all, in fact mean, it made it a lot easier to deal with.
I hope things turn out ok for you.
You are a wonderful poet.
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What a perfect comment. 
It's been about 2 weeks since the fact and my head has become a lot clearer now. It hurts, but I just kind of accepted that this must be who they are - or who they're willing to be for other people. That quote, "the first time someone shows you who they are, believe them" is very right. I hope that your situation has settled in an better way
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Thanks, my situation was settled in what I think is the best outcome for me. I am no longer friends with that person, and am not interested in ever rekindling that relationship. It's not a matter of forgiveness, as I do hope to one day forgive her, but that will be for me. If someone only considers other people's feelings when it's convenient for them,then that isn't someone I want in my life. Maybe someday she'll change, but since part of her MO is to claim she has had a realization and has changed but keeps acting the same way. I am not willing to risk being taken in again. As other friends have remembered warning signs they say, I become even more certain I made the right decision. Someone who thinks, "if people let you manipulate them, then why not do it" is going to hurt you eventually. If ever you meet someone who thinks that, run. Run as far and fast as you can.
I am glad your head is clearer now, good for you for managing to accept hard truths. No one wants to believe that people they care for may not care the same for you. Good for you, people are not disposable conveniences, you deserve to be around people who consider your feelings as much as you care for theirs.
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You are always so creative with your poems.
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Thank you very much
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Thanks for the thanks
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This is exactly how I felt about a certain someone not too long ago...
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