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It's a fantasy. No shame in that. There are fanfic writers who write that type of stuff and they are in a relationship or married.
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I haven't even thought about doing that, but I'm now!
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this is why i wish to find a cosplay girl. its pretty much the closest i'll get. why not suggest it to your wife?
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That isn't what cosplay is for.
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Usually people do cosplay for themselves. Not for the man attention is gets. Have you ever seen the project Cosplay =/= Consent? I suggest you read about that.
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again. it depends on the person.
if you find out your lover has a furrie fettish or something like that, wouldn't you dress up to please them?
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I find that to be really insulting to people who do the hobby as a harmless and fun thing.
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Well, build a fucking bridge and get over it. its not just gonna disapear because you think its insulting
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I'm honestly not thoroughly upset by it but things like cosplay and "being a furry", etc, can mean a hell of a lot to some people, and the fact that they are practically used like that just doesn't seem very fair. In my eyes. Sorry if you don't like my opinion and I'm sorry that I got worked up about it. I just like it when people are fair about others' hobbies.
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i thought people cos for all sorts of different reasons. i personally dont cosplay cuz theres not many fat anime or game characters and i wouldnt be happy with the end result.
but for me it would be a chance to hang out with some of my favorite characters. cant hang out with them or talk with them in real life so the closest i can get is someone that can get into the character.
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I can see why you'd say that but using the hobby for sex is insulting to the people who take it as a serious craft and are proud of their work and themselves. To have a guy "judging" you on a craft that people take very seriously is insulting.
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please i mean no insult by it. i love cosplay and the cosplay comunity. sometimes its astonishing how people can look so like the character.
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If you want a cosplay girl for fantasy sex then you are being insulting without realizing it
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oh no no. i dont want a cosplay girl for fantasy sex. its because im a fat 24 year old virgin that hasnt had a girlfriend in about 6 years and a cos girl would have the same interests as me.
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Alright, I misunderstood, I apologize. It just seemed like that to me because the deviation was about sexual fantasies. Sincerest apologies, bro.
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nah. i apologize too. i dont mean to offend or kinda snap like that.
friends?
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Ah, I overreacted xD no need to apologize. *brofist* Im just a bit sensitive I suppose.
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There was absolutely nothing stated in his statement that had anything to do with sex, or looking "sexy and appealing" in the eyes of a male/female. He was simply stating that as much as he'd love to cosplay, he'd be too self-conscious to do so, that, or like he said, he just wouldn't like the ending result coming out of it.
Please before you go off like that, re-read what was put before jumping to such an escalated opinion..
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The deviation is bout fantasies about fake characters, he commented about wanting a cosplay girl for that reason. It's what I got out of it and as I re-read it that's still what I get out of it. I'm sorry if it was insulting but I was insulted, so.
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No, he commented saying he'd love to cosplay, but because of his build, wouldn't really end up liking the end result. Although the grammar isn't exactly proper, I read between the lines.
You've been insulted on many people's comments however, so might I suggest just commenting on the Deviantation itself?
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Don't feel guilty .. it's your private space, it's just natural ;D
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Pffft. Dude,it's fine to have some fantasies. Especially when the characters aren't real.
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Now, maybe I'm not the best person to be giving advice about anything sexual since I'm basically asexual and don't see what the big deal about sex is (other than reproduction and it's apparently fun) but I'll try. I'm getting the feeling that you're missing something in your sexual relationship with your spouse. I'm not saying you don't love your spouse or you don't enjoy having sex with them but you might not be as satisfied as you could be. Maybe you should talk to them about it how you could make your sexual experience better for the both of you. Maybe even have them read the fiction you wrote, it might be embarrassing but they'll get a better idea of what could make it better.
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...Darlin', believe me, that's basically what constitutes half of my writings
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I, personaly, with a shitload of fanfiction. A lot feature me, or I just imagine myself as one of the characters. Sometimes it makes me feel a bit dirty, but there's nothing wrong with it.
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The mind is your own living wonderland so why being ashamed of it? The fact you are married doesn't limit your imagination to the same.
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The world in my head is far more interesting than real life, I want to live inside my own head, like a lucid dream whilst having a coma
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I think fantasizing actually helps sexual relationships.... Don't feel guilty. 
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That is just too awesome and just soooo true!!!
I showed it to my husband who chuckled, agree it was me, shook his head and walked away... I laughed harder!
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I do the same thing with my fav anime character and my soon to be husband knows very well and is supportive. He knows there are certain things that can't sate my sexual satisfaction simply because they're impossible (i.e. tentacle rape, interspecies like elf sex or something, etc.), but as far as what IS possible goes he completes me~ He knows it and I make sure he knows it...and if he weren't okay with it I'd throw it out the window in a heartbeat.
It doesn't mean I love him any less, it's like watching porn basically only you're creating it yourself (assuming you and your spouse are okay with porn). Just make sure it's something they're okay with you doing, talk to them about it and make sure they understands that you still love them and find them sexually appealing. Tell them why you write it, what it does for you, and heck if somethings recreatable try it! (if they're up for it)
Just don't feel guilty. You're normal, and there are a LOT of people in your same position that do the same thing.
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Don't. It's a natural, healthy thing. Fantasies. And guess what, it's good for your relationship as well, because out of it come ideas of what you want. If you wrote it down and your husband isn't a closed-minded person, show him. Let him read it. Go take a walk in between, coz trust me I know how hard it is when someone reads your stuff, 'specially if it's erotic. You just gave your husband cheat codes to how to play you good. He might even use them ... and that is how real love keeps growing.
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haha, i took a walk aswell, yes, it is hard...but the look in his eyes was worth a wait and torture...well putt ,all of it.
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I do the same and I don't feel guilty. Fantasms are natural !
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Hey, You are NOT ALONE, I am currently in a relationship with a someone special, i believe is even my soul mate. We even moved together and i moved all the way to a different country to be with my soul mate.
I to fantasies about in game characters I fine ''hot/interesting'', I can even share with you that I think'' Glarthir'' form Oblivion ''gets it on'' xD I guess I just like the bosmers you know? Anyhow.
This is normal and ok, as long as you don't start loving your mate less of course and treat them bad or find them un sexy all the time.
Beside, in reality, you wouldn't give up what you had for that anyway. It would never be the same life
Think it thro and you should realise that no matter how awesome the fantasy is you still love your Husband/Wife the most
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Another think, something i just thought of, sometimes me and my mate Role play in bed, not my idea only, he is often the one asking of the two of us, and roleplay is a fun way to have sex and explore some fantasies. Often peole fantasies becuz they wanna try new things and miss ''adventures'' rather it is sexuelly or experiencely. Also Like one of the comments says, make your ATE THE CO-STAR.
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There's nothing wrong with fantasizing! Everyone does it, so you shouldn't feel guilty.
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Marriage is about sharing your life with someone else and your commitment to them. Its not all Prince Charming, Sleeping Beauty and Happily Ever After with no eyes or thoughts of other people.
Open up. Maybe your spouse is fantasizing about the neighbor down the street and you both can sit and write erotic fiction about a foursome. And who knows, you just might end up having a fantastic night afterwards!
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I would suggest that you stop writing erotica, or try making your husband your co-star. Sure, we can all feel attracted to others (especially unavailable people like fictional characters) when we're committed to someone, but you can choose not to indulge in fantasies that could prove harmful to your relationship with your spouse. It may not seem like they could be harmful, but, the fact that you wish these encounters could happen says to me that there's a problem you need to face, whether it was created by this fantasizing or the fantasies are just a symptom.
Just so you know, I'm not trying to rake you over the coals. If I was, I'd Bible-thump you and throw in a few "eternal damnation!"s. We all make mistakes. Most of us make big ones. But, I think that sometimes one of the biggest mistakes we make is rushing to alleviate someone's guilt, overlooking the reason they feel guilty and that that might be pointing to a problem.
And, to me, it sounds like you know something is wrong, deep down, but you're afraid to admit it. That's okay. The truth can be terrifying. That's why our species has found so many ways to hide from it - and risks so much to do so, sometimes.
Whatever the turnout is, I wish you well. If you'd like to talk, please send me a message. I promise to protect your anonymity. Take care of yourself.
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you have a point, they might be going through some rough time so to start realising what is wrong i think they must first get together again sexually, it will open so many paths...but i disagree she should stop writing it, for example, my writings made my relationship stronger, it gave me an inside in myself which is always needed...i think she should look at her writings rationally, with no emotions included if possible and try to get close to her loved one again. and after doing those two things i think she has a good chance in getting it right in her mind and relationship. she should work on herself in order to be able to work on them both but at the same time she must not neglect him...
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