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is anyone else bothered by the fact that in this secret being a tomboy is "normal" and being transsexual isn't?
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I used to hang out with boys and dress in a boyish way
I've only recently started to like dressing girlish, and i'm already 25
But i still think that usually boys make better friends than girls
Just take your time and be yourself!
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that was me all throughout junior high. it's perfectly cool, unless people start mistaking you for a guy...
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I feel the same way. When people comment on me being a girl, I even take offense. All of my friends say that I'm neither male nor female, and just call me my own gender.
It's hard, ST, but know that there are people like you.
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i dont think anyone has the right to tell you that your a tom boy or a transsexual or .. whatever. i think that you will know when you know and thats how it happens.
im transsexual so in a way i know how you feel. but maybe i dont.
good luck with everything though and if you need to talk you can messege me.
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I was like that. I was a total tomboy and sort of still am. But remember, whatever you are or chose to be. Make sure you do it for you and no one else.There's nothing worse than being someone you're not!
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I can identify with you, ST, being Female to male transgendered. Your identity though, is what you want it to be. If you want to be seen, viewed and treated as a male, then you could, if you wanted, to call yourself transgendered. Though its really up to you. Transgendered, Tomboy, what ever you feel is right. :3
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When I was a little kid, I really wanted to be a boy, not a girl. I kept my hair relatively short, and while I did wear skirts on occasion, it was not often. Nowadays, I frequently purchase guys' clothes, though I can't say I want to be a boy anymore. I'd rather just look like one. 
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Me too but I wish I had more guy friends ..:3 and i love being a tomboy.I can do funny stuff my bff think it's disgusting mawhahahaha
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yea, girls suck. i hang out with guys mostly, there are very few girls i really care about or can tolerate for very long. But that doesnt make me gay XD i think the female form is beautiful and all, but no, id much rather be in a relationship with a man XD theyre more fun to be around.
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me too. completely. i'm just asexual. men are pigs, but gosh, girls are SOOOOO much worse.
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Well, it's understandable. Being a girl is hard.
I wish, sometimes, to be a boy too.
But for completely different reasons
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eh,
just a tomboy
don't worry
i used to be the same way until my senior year of high school :S...
i hated girl clothes and make up
and i always wore baggy men's clothing
i only started dressing and looking more like a girl when i was a senior,
not sure what changed,
i just felt more comfortable being more like...me i guess
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I can have very effiminate qualities in certain areas and I am still 100% straight, personally, so I think each person is their own person and they should just be true to who they are!
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I went through a gender identity crisis when I started dating a boy because I felt that by dressing butch and still being in a straight relationship I was somehow saying I was a lesbian and my relationship didn't hold much value... after a while I realized I really shouldn't care. I like dressing masculine sometimes and exploring my gender identity, but it shouldn't have to connect to my sexuality. Maybe you're tg, maybe you're not. It's perfectly possible that you're like me and simply have slightly unconventional gender expression, but that doesn't mean you're automatically a guy. Be who you feel like being, whatever that entails and whatever other people think. Trying to be something you're not creates more problems than it solves.
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I know how you feel. I used to dress like a guy, too. I still get along with guys more than I do girls. In fact, I think I have about two real girl friends besides my family, the rest of my friends being guys (obviously). But I find girls more intimidating in a way.
Anyway- If you're comfortable dressing like a guy, then do it. Don't leave your friends because you feel like you're doing something wrong, you're not.
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If identifying as transgender feels right to you and makes you more comfortable and secure, go for it. Some people need a group they can fall into and find similarities with. I do! I was miserable and thought I was going insane for a few things, until I finally found out there were plenty of other people like me. They had a name for those traits. Now I have a name, a group, and I feel a lot more comfortable. I KNOW where to turn to share experiences that most of society doesn't understand.
BUT don't let yourself get trapped in a box, whether it's the box of your sex or the box of transgender or the box of tomboy. In the end, you're YOU no matter what you call yourself and what the world calls you. Adopting a label and a title won't change who you are, but it can help you feel comfortable and accepted.
There's nothing wrong with being a female who's a boy, or just boyish. Just remember when you go through tough times because of it that you are NEVER alone.
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sometimes I think about girls...I am one...but I've never thought of myself as a lesbian, because deep in my mind I've always thought I was a boy.
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I suggest you just don't do anything.
When I make those stupid little tests "are you more boy or girl" etc, I always am more boy. But those are just characteristics society tells us are "male" or "female". Actually, it's rather sexistic. Don't define yourself about those categories of qualities. It's pointless.
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even if you are transsexual, there's nothing wrong with that. just be honest with yourself and do whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy.
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First off- why label yourself? Be who you are, don't try to live up to some label that other people have created.
Secondly- it's actually transgendered, transsexual involved the actual physical gender shift (and surgery) from one gender to the other.But that's okay, not everyone knows that ^_^
And my opinion on this- It makes you you. The thing with being trans is that it varies from person to person. Some people would read what you wrote and immediately say that you are. Others would and say that you are not. As I am not privy to your personal thoughts and feelings outside of this, I can only tell you my own opinion of what the difference is. (i have known a few people who are, and this is what I have seen with them which gives me this opinion)
To me, when you are trans, you don't just wish to be on occasion, you *are* one. Boy or girl, whichever. In your case, boy. In your mind, and often times in behaviours there is no room for you to be anything other than male. (using that as an example). You consider having a female body a stumbling block because it doesn't match how your mindset is. It's not just a feeling (although that accompanies it). Everything about it feels wrong. You may force a genderless quality (I have no issues with this, but binding would be considered force)to make yourself feel more comfortable, or you may just embrace what you have because you have no choice (what do you do if your chest is so large binding is no option?), and deal with the feelings you have.
It's not just something you take lightly, it's something that not only can cause you your own issues because of the required gender identity that society places on you, but for all the accepting people, just like anything else "outside the norm", there are incredibly nasty people as well.
I can't really say if you are or not. All I can say is do what makes you comfortable and happy, and try not to put a label on it, because that constrains you to the limits of the label.
And good luck
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I think you're just a normal tomboy... I'm glad you know that about yourself instead of just hanging around with girls being unhappy.
we can be bitches.
I've often wished i was born a guy, simply because I like hanging out with them a lot. Just like you!
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I dress pretty much like a emo boy, but I have too big of boobs to look like a boy. I wish I were a boy too, though. Good luck ST.
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Well it is possible to be a transsexual, female to male, and still like guys. It'd make you a gay man, basically.
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tomboy
i used to be like that, and my extreme dislike for simply hanging out with girls remains
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Totally a normal tomboy!! I feel the same way most of the time.
And i have a boyfriend.
Granted, I can get a lot girlier than i plan to. And everyone says I'm too girly to be a boy, but I always figured I'd just pull of one awesome gay guy!
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