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dweebzilla In reply to ??? [2013-07-12 05:55:57 +0000 UTC]
So anything that happens to a Muslim that isn't their choice isn't held against them? Your God is much more forgiving than the one Christians portray. Islam deserves much more respect than it gets in the media these days.
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Nayzak In reply to dweebzilla [2013-07-12 12:27:24 +0000 UTC]
From an Islamic point of view, knowing that the God is all-Just and All-Wise, it doesn't make sense if he were to hold us responsible for something in which we have no control.
I believe all what's considered forbidden are things in which we have the ability to decide and can choose to do or avoid, therefore they're within our choices.
Don't get me wrong. I do understand that some people may have some sad situations and may decide not to marry and stay single until they're healed. that's fine. somebody shouldn't burden himself. what's not fine, in my opinion, is when someone makes a firm and final decision that they will never ever marry in their life. I believe this should be left to time since nobody knows what will happen in the future.
peace
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dweebzilla In reply to Nayzak [2013-07-12 14:38:24 +0000 UTC]
That makes a lot more sense than what I hear from several other religions and it paints a picture of an actually loving God instead of one who punishes his creation for a sin they didn't commit.
I think it's dumb to decide you'll never marry because that's like choosing never to eat vanilla ice cream. Just because it looks like mashed potatoes doesn't mean it's going to taste like it, but you'll never know if you don't try.
Asexuals can and do fall in love and marry, and in the case that they marry someone who isn't asexual they'll often be with the person despite their indifference towards what they're doing for the sake of keeping their partner happy. In the case that they marry another asexual, they simply never feel that urge. They may still be with each other for the sake of bonding or starting a family, but more often than not they show their affection and love for their partner in other ways. Would that still be celibacy or is it God's way of showing other people that marriage is more than what happens under the covers?
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Nayzak In reply to dweebzilla [2013-07-12 15:07:17 +0000 UTC]
I don't know about such cases. maybe one who is knowledgeable in psychology may answer better. but from an Islamic point of view the God doesn't want to put a burden on us and he doesn't expect us to be perfect. he only asks us to have sincere intentions and to try our best. in Islam, if you try your best with pure and honest and good intentions, regardless of the results -good or bad, you will be rewarded. in Islam, intentions are what counts. and the God gives each one of us different situations and different tests. if we try, to the best of our abilities, to make the best choice, I believe the God would understand.
and God knows best.
peace
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Nayzak In reply to metalangel123 [2013-07-12 13:34:52 +0000 UTC]
I believe sexual desires aren't the ONLY purpose of marriage. if someone thinks they have no sexual desire therefore they don't want to marry, then I believe these people need some treatments. as I mentioned earlier, maybe they passed by some bad experiences in their past or childhood which caused such feelings. I believe such things could be healed. someone may need to ask an expert...
Ramadhan mubarak.
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metalangel123 In reply to Nayzak [2013-07-12 19:13:05 +0000 UTC]
Sorry for the long comment, especially on Ramadan This is just something I feel passionate about, since one of my close friends is asexual.
There may be some people who have been affected negatively by a traumatizing event, enough to want to not marry, but that's not the same as asexuality. That's a common misconception about asexuality, along with another one being that people think that the person is just gay/lesbian and doesn't want to come out. Asexuality means that they positively don't feel anything, and it doesn't mean that they feel lonely or anything.
A year ago, out of curiosity, I checked out yahoo answers to see if there were any Muslims facing this problem, and there was this Muslim man who was honestly perplexed about getting married because he was worried about if he'd be able to make his wife happy or not, because he doesn't feel any sexual attraction for anybody.
I actually google'd what the case would be for this, and this answer seems to address the problem well:[link]
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Nayzak In reply to metalangel123 [2013-07-12 20:53:09 +0000 UTC]
answers.Yahoo isn't a serious place to look for Islamic answers. whatever is in that page can't be taken seriously.
if you're looking for a good and serious Islamic answer, check Islamic websites where a learned SCHOLAR is the one who answers. not every Tom, Dick and Harry. and if no answer is found, you can even ask the question to a scholar and get your answer. different people's cases may also have different answers...
"Asexuality means that they positively don't feel anything"
Yes. but Asexuality doesn't imply they will never ever feel anything. even in a thousand years. Asexuality could be a passing period after which the person returns to "normal".
"because he doesn't feel any sexual attraction for anybody."
not feeling any sexual attraction for anybody could simply mean he still didn't meet the right person for him. and it's not like marriage is all about sexual attraction. I already said in my previous reply that sexual desires aren't the ONLY purpose of marriage.
I'm still convinced that all these people's problems are cases that can be treated by experts. sometimes people don't want to seek the help of the expert because they want to believe there is no problem with them.
peace
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metalangel123 In reply to Nayzak [2013-07-15 20:13:08 +0000 UTC]
-Sorry for the late reply-
While that's true in some cases, it's can be a good site when you're looking for facts to start researching something; it's a good starting place.
Um no, it's no a phase. Somebody might be unsure if they're asexual or not, and they could return to being hetero after finding out that they're not in fact asexual, but the sexuality itself is not a phase. It's also kinda offensive labelling it as something not normal, but whatever, to each and their own.
Again, that's different from being asexual. And I know that marriage is still an option for asexuals, it's just that a lot of people get married to have kids (especially if they're Muslim or Middle Eastern), so marriage may not be an option for them, unless they find another asexual who they could have a marriage with based on romantic feelings, not sexual desires.
If that's what you believe, I won't force you to change your beliefs then, I'm just sharing my opinions so you can see it in a different light. But as I said before, to each and their own.
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BlazeX-HD In reply to ??? [2013-07-12 05:16:59 +0000 UTC]
Ramadan Mubarak to you as well! ^-^
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Abdulla-A [2013-07-12 05:16:34 +0000 UTC]
nice font did you make that font or did you took it ? I want to have one !
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Nayzak In reply to Abdulla-A [2013-07-12 05:17:21 +0000 UTC]
the Arabic or the English?
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Abdulla-A In reply to Nayzak [2013-07-12 05:19:29 +0000 UTC]
the Arabic
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Nayzak In reply to Abdulla-A [2013-07-14 21:03:01 +0000 UTC]
it's a font called Occation. has many Islamic greetings in Arabic.
but the one I used above is a mix.
Wassalaamu alaikum
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Abdulla-A In reply to Nayzak [2013-07-15 06:04:57 +0000 UTC]
any links ?
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WishElf [2013-07-12 04:34:13 +0000 UTC]
This is adorable!
Ramadan Mubarak!!
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JDLuvaSQEE [2013-07-12 04:33:59 +0000 UTC]
Lovely!!!
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PiNkDuRoQa [2013-07-12 04:26:15 +0000 UTC]
So cuuuute...!! Ramadan mubarak to you tooo...>v<
Ahaa... this piece is cuter than the last piece...OvO
The khat is beautiful...^v^
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cutefairy09 [2013-07-12 04:23:06 +0000 UTC]
so nice!!! but, i can't fasting right now....... , im a MUSLIM!!!! but, it's haram when i fasting.Maybe you what it is............
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