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flying-wolf-32 [2019-11-08 22:38:14 +0000 UTC]
Is this one for aces questioning their romantic orientation, or for people who are wondering if they are ace?
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KittenPrince55 [2016-11-24 17:42:10 +0000 UTC]
I don't think I'm ace because I still have a sex drive and I masturbate... does that count? Can asexuals masterbate? I know that masturbation isn't the same as having sexual intercourse with someone, but it's confusing for me. I can't imagine myself being sexually intimate with someone, I try, but it's all blurry. I adore cuddles and romance, but sex? Not so much. I'm sort of scared of it. I'm trans and panromantic, I don't find myself SEXUALLY attracted to anyone as in, "damn I wanna fuck that person!", but it's more of a "damn I wanna snuggle with that person!" thing, you know?
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AvocadoAfro In reply to KittenPrince55 [2017-05-27 23:45:11 +0000 UTC]
Yes, my sweet child You can have a sex drive and still be asexual. A sex drive is literally your body just being like, "You're in good condition, so let's do something sexy/make a baby!" Our brains are still gonna be hard-wired to procreate (or at least simulate it for those who are gay or just have non-traditional sex).
Asexuality is just that you don't have a sexual attraction to anyone or you have little to no desire for sexual acts. Masturbation is a common way asexuals use up their libido. However, you can also have sex and be asexual. Some like it for the physical stimulation, some do it because they wanna have kids, some do it to please their partner. It's just that the sex isn't done out of sexual attraction.
Though I'm a cis-gender girl, I understand how you feel completely. I like people, but my thoughts usually end at, "Ooh, yeah, I'd cuddle the hell out of you!"
Also, I've noticed when you reach a certain age, it's pretty standard to have at least one sex dream, but I've never had one. I always just have dreams of cuddling with someone, and it is THE BEST KIND OF DREAM EVER!
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stamploveyou [2010-11-21 23:26:44 +0000 UTC]
i dunno. i think myself, i'm afraid of intimacy. caught between body's primal desire of the species, ingrained and below the surface., then i writhe and squirm and freak out over the idea of me being sexual. then again, maybe it is "me", and not being completable with myself
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Julesie In reply to RJDaae [2010-04-02 00:39:56 +0000 UTC]
*scratches head* It hasn't changed for me. I wonder if its my comp.
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RJDaae In reply to Julesie [2010-04-02 02:11:09 +0000 UTC]
Hmm, that's weird. Can you try in a different browser?
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Julesie In reply to RJDaae [2010-04-02 02:34:33 +0000 UTC]
I dont have another browser. I asked my friend to look and its the same for her... o.o odd.
It just says Questioning asexual.
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shereynia In reply to Masoquismo [2010-04-01 20:39:48 +0000 UTC]
hm i think he means some one that thinks he is asexual... but isn't sure jet...
am i right????
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Masoquismo In reply to shereynia [2010-04-01 20:54:11 +0000 UTC]
Hmm... maybe yes. That's what I thought, but I wanted to be sure. XD
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