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If you are cis, asexual and heteroromantic, youβre not LGBT. If youβre asexual but experience same sex attraction/is trans/both, then youβre LGBT.
Cishet aces stop acting like youβre oppressed challenge.
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We aren'tΒ
But I think we should get out own group as well!
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what makes me mad is when people group exclusionists with terfs
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ik this comment is from 2017 but theres some person on tumblr who is like nearly 30 and they grouped us exclus in with terfs
gaud or biggest-gaudiest-patronuses on tumblr if you know them. theyre just awful
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Of course they are. They're not straight, so they're not LGBT+.
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I'm asexual, and I have never felt like I belonged in the LGBT community. Especially since I've only had romantic feelings for the opposite sex, and that's it.
Of course, asexuals who are romantically interested to the same sex LGBT, but asexuality by itself doesn't belong in the community imo. (I hope I worded that in a way that makes sense, if not, I apologize.)
I think asexuality should be part of it's own community instead of being grouped with homosexuality, bisexuality, and transgenders. It would make more sense in my opinion.
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yes!!! im 100% agree with you, as an exclu, this what l want for aces.Β
having separate communitys is not invalidating your identidy, is just knowing that both groups have different goals
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yes!! agree 100%. asexuality on its own isnt enough to be considered lgbt. i completely support the idea of having a seperateΒ community for asexuals! itd be so easy to make, first off. and, aces would have a safe space where they belong.Β
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We're not straight and we experience some of the same problems as other LGBT-people face; societal rejection, parental rejection, misconceptions, corrective rape, etc. No, we're not being thrown out of our houses, murdered, or denied jobs for not being sexually attracted to anyone, but we still experience the same issues as others do.
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When I thought I was asexual because I was on a med that decreased my sexual desire (actually completely negated it) my mom flipped. So did my dad. They thought it was something of the devil. I was wholely confused because I thought that was a good thing because you were supposed to have sex before marriage. I was confused all the way around. I am pansexual. I could have really been asexual at the time. I will never know. I do believe sexuality is fluid because when I stopped taking the meds and started noticing people in romantic and sexual ways it was only men. The in my late teens it began being girls. And from then on learning about trans people (realizing that I was trasns myself) and intersex I realized I could like anyone that catches my fancy. Though I am not morally supperior because I am pan and "don't see sex or gender". I have my prefernces. I hate that sterotype about pans that it is love not lust. Also to note I stick with pan because at the time I came out the definition of bisexual was just someone who liked cis dyadic binary people. (dyadic not intersex).
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Oh wow. I'm on meds that also cause the same thing (according to my dr), but I've been asexual long before them...My mom basically scoffed at it, accused me of "stealing" terms away from LGBT people (as if they owned/reclaimed the term "coming out"??), and basically confused it with hating sex. So guess who has to keep herself closeted around the rest of the family? 
Before I found asexuality, I just thought I was straight. 
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Yeah, mine was literally caused by my meds. I know because it wasn't too long after I stopped them that I suddenly had all these emotions that I didn't know how to deal with all at once. Trust me... having sexual feelings towards people is not a walk in the park if you don't understand them because you live with devout Christian parents who are afraid to explain anything to you till the point you don't even know you've been raped till yearsssssssssssssss later. Yeah, that happened.Β
But anyways, what you experience can't be a cake walk either. I only got a little hate compared to that. When I did come into a sexuality I made a lot of stupid decisions. Including one that basically got my sister raped. No joke. So yah know.Β
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Oh yeah, I've actually experienced sexual feelings once towards my bf and afterwords, I started doubting myself again. But I figured out that I'm only attracted to him and no other guys, or anyone else, and the concept of getting sexual with anyone I didn't know very well was gross. Same thing happened when I first met my bf before dating. Over time, I only developed feelings towards him (which is what makes me demisexual...part of the gray-area of asexuality). But as that term is even more confusing for most people outside the ace community, I just say I'm asexual.
Oh yikes! 
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I was stupid. I thought I was head over heels. And he put on a good christian as well as poor me act. So convinced psople just hated him I asked my dad if he could move in with him. Since my sister and I weren't living with him. At this time yeah, having sex responsibly with condoms, but yeah. Took a baby class, got sexually educated and scared. Stopped having sex with him. He got mad, but not to my face. My sister went to spend one night with my dad. He ended up drugging her and raping her. He drugged my dad too. So essentially when my sister woke up he was on top of her. My sister was 15. He was 19. He got away even though months later she made the report. The cops didn't believe not because there was no evidence. Because she is mentally challenged. So she actually has the mental age of 12. Not kidding. I just.... I feel guilty because I dated that guy and he had us all fooled. Then I found out more crap once we all forced him out of town. (at that time he proclaimed to my mom that he did raped my sister and had loved every second of it. Of course he didn't call it rape and said she was will sick fuck.) To this day I still feel bad and unclean that ever had sex with someone like that. I think I feel about as violated as she does. I got anxiety when I even think he is in town. Same way she does.
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(Sorry for the late response.) That sounds just like my ex. 
Wow. 
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Oh wow. Yeah and I hear you on the trying to get back with you. The thing is about this man he broke up with me prior and I LIKE AN IDIOT broke up with someone I was going out with just to be back with him when he asked to go back out with me. That should have been a red flag. So I ended up hurting a good man even though I technically did not cheat on him. When I think back sometimes I know if I could do it all over again with the knowledge I have now I would be flipping dangerous. I'd force the schools to actually give me an iep and sued the crap out of them even if I had to be emancipated to do it. Not only that I wouldn't have been stupid enough to fall for his crap. I would be dangerous, but I think to an extent that if we all were able to have a do-over with the knowledge we possessed now we'd all be dangerous. I just ugh. Thank you. I could just slap my teen self. Then again I think we all would.Β
I think there are a few key things I would teach my children. Never go back out with someone when they've broke up with you. (It only works in very rare circumstances and just is a good practice) Never go out with you sibling's ex. (That was something that was taught to me.) Same with you close friend's exs. Don't. If there are rumors investigate! Not all rumors are true. That is true. However the guy I mention had rumors like he stood over his sister's bed holding a knife and those turned out to be true. I dismissed them only because I was trying to be a good human being and not buy into rumors. I could have investigated. That doesn't mean believe everyone, but at least pay mind to them. If you say no, no means no, no matter how much begging. Like instead of sticking to my guns he begged to do anal and I stupidly let him. He not only ended up hurting me. While not legally rape in a way it is emotionally because no should mean no. Added to that you should no have to explain yourself. You shouldn't even have to say I have a headache. NO should mean no. And honestly that is gonna be the first thing I ever test in another relationship. I will tell them no and if they badger me I am gonna dump them because never again.Β
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Being an asexual myself, I really don't understand how we could be part of the LGBT. We may be a minority, but it's not like you could be rejected or discriminated against for being asexual.... No parent will disown their kid for not having sex, they don't need safe places, they're aren't lacking any kind of rights, they aren't lacking respect, and it's not even a "different sexuality" as it's the lack of sexuality.
Then, yeah, I fully agree with you, asexuals are not part of the LGBT. I know you're a troll account, but still :'DΒ
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I'm ace too, but...whether we like sex or not doesn't matter? I've always understood asexuality to mean that we're not sexually attracted to anyone. But you can still have and enjoy sex without being sexually attracted to someone.
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Like, you want to have sex with someone but you claim not being sexually attracted to this someone? I don't get it. To me, you're asexual if you do not want to have sex.Β
Or else I could Β have sex with men and claim to be heterosexual.Β
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What you're describing is abstinence or celibacy, the choice to not have sex...which is not the same as asexuality. Asexual = no sexual attraction. But sex and sexual attraction are two different things. Just because you don't like sex doesn't necessarily mean you're asexual. You can be sexually attracted to someone, but you choose not to have sex with them because you don't like sex. That's means you're just repulsed by sex, so you're staying abstinent or celibate. There are plenty of people who are gay, bi, or straight who choose to not have/want sex. That doesn't make them asexual. That just means they're abstinent or celibate because they're repulsed by sex, because of religions reasons, or it could even be a medical thing.
But I didn't choose to not be sexually attracted to anyone. That's what makes me asexual. But as for choosing to have sex, I'm indifferent. I can take it or leave it.
I'm not saying you can't use the term, but you might not be using it correctly. I mean, you could be not sexually attracted to anyone AND you don't want to have sex either.
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thank you for this comment b l e s s
(im not a troll account)
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Well you're basically not hetero... LGBT is basically everyone who's not hetero
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But I'm not into the same sex neither 8DΒ
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wich still makes you LGBT
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what the fuck how are you LGB if youre a cis person not into their own gender
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sorry but I don't talk to trolls
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