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Hey guys, I'm not dead, lol! Here's a little comic as a sign of life xDDDSorry for not submitting for so long but my new full time job is very exhausting '''OTL Still need time to adapt to it x___x
But I promise I'll try to be more active from now on, still have so many ideas that need to be drawn!
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As for the comic itself, here's a little description:
I hate that attitude some people have: they have the urge to put you into a category, either you're straight or gay/lesbian or bi, because anything else 'does not exist'. It's funny how people want to negate something just because they don't understand it. Besides, not having a girlfriend/boyfriend does not mean you're searching for one, even if you're not asexual. xD
PS: I'm talking about people who really are asexual, not kids who pretend to be one just because it's "trendy" or whatever. xD
Oh and 1% of the population are asexual, if you think about that, that's a lot of people!
EDIT: I know that asexual must not automatically mean aromantic and that asexual people can still want a romantic relationship. But let's face reality: how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this (or who's also asexual)?...
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I've had people say that I'm too affectuous to be aroace.
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I was pretty young when I was categories as "not straight" by peers. At the time nothing else 'existed' outside of straight besides homosexual. So I was declared a lesbian wether I agreed or not, in lack of anything else to be called.
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Frusrating as hell, isn't it? Β People keep insisting I'm gay when I'm not. Β The trick is to have some really good friends who understand you. Β For long term relationships, it can't be beat. Β Another possibility is to look for a partner who has a low sex drive or is asexual themselves. Β ^_^
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I know how you feel. Β I just went off to college two years ago, and when I came back for the holidays, my relatives constantly interrogated me on whether I found a boyfriend yet. Β Though back then, I was still looking for one (Thank god I found one). Β It stinks that people constantly (especially relatives) literally have to interrogate you about your love life every. Β Single. Β Holiday.
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A friend in my choir is asexual but lesbian-romantic. So she has a girlfriend, but thier relationship is without sex and so on. And she is really nice and cool and I think it's a honor to me that she commits it to me, because I know, some people (also in my choir) would think bad about this.Β
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I wonder what category I'd fall under. My feelings change drastically all the time.
At the moment, I see love as a universal lie and a tool to cause pain. Sexual interactions, to me, right now, seem like horrible and perverse things.
At the same time, I do crave more for myself. I get lonely.
I don't think I fit in any one category. I'm more of a 'nothing'.
It is frustrating trying to deal with gay friends and family who insist that I have no idea what it's like to be different. When you see your Trans-masculine roommate as more normal than you, you know there's something off.
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I do believe that love exists, just not in the way media tries to sell us all the time. I believe the idea of a person who thinks all the day about you, who wants to kiss/make love to you, who wants to spend time and shit is not necessarely love. Love happens when someone has seen your worst and knows all of your flaws and yet he or she stays there by your side. Not out of loneliness but because you matter to them. One of the best examples of this is a loving mother.
I have no comments on sex doe. I know nothing about it.
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Oddly enough, I can see familial love and friendship love just fine. But when it comes to romantic love, just the thought of it makes me want to spit. Lies and disgust.
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My ex-roommate is asexual, and she has a wife...
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What I'm trying to say more or less is.... relationships are weird....
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You can be asexual without being aromantic.
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I did just say that, but thank you for repeating it.
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Being asexual has nothing to do with not having a SO. In this case it's a legit question. Yes, it makes matching harder. It just means you have no sexual attraction. Not, not having someone.
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Like the comic! And I get the comment you made. Biggest fear is not finding someone who can tolerate my preference. I'm already a difficult personality, anti-social and average at best in the looks department. At this rate, I've already come to terms with my fate. Doesn't stop me from having a family though!
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Well not everyone knows the orientation idea :T
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Yeah, 1% of the current living population is 70 million people. That's a lot of people who don't give a f**k (note: that's my personal joke about my asexuality, and I need it to be clear which swearword I'm using because I'm punning on said swearword)
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I'm so confused by everyone in the comments below. Isn't asexuality just not having s*x with a partner? You can have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or what ever suites your fancy....
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I've been in this situation too many times xD
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Two Girls one is happy and 1 is angry the angry one want boyfriend and happy one think of a boyfriend
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Yeah, at least I a have the feeling like "Who would wanna be in a relationship with me? That's just crazy I don't think anyone can tolerate me enough xD " And I don't think it in a sad way I mean it would be awesome to have someone to cuddle and kiss and do some romantic stuff, but when I think about it I can't imagine anyone liking me other than as friends(maybe cause I haven't been in a relationship? I dunno)
Also my country is pretty darn sexualized (I mean like in a poll put as "one of the most sexually satisfied country" and some of the news that I've read here seem to lean really into Acephobic Dx ) (and all relationships are so into sex, like all my friends are so into it and just chatter about "How it's normal and needed and etc" -.- ) So hard it's hard. But thankfully the Health Education at least mentions aces and school wide pool had ace as an opinion =w=
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//This.// It's really, really irritating, hearing this.
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What makes matters more complicated is that a person's orientation is not always easy to define, and subject to innumerable emotional and psychological factors that defy rigid catagorization. Things aren't always black and white.
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I know what you mean, I face palmed when a girl said she was asexual, yet complained how hot guys never payed attention to her and how she wanted a guy to ask her out. It seems like people just don't know the meanings of words now. It's sorta sad though, since most things starting with "a" can mean "non", meaning "non-sexual".
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tbh this is exactly what happened when i told my dad i was asexual
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=n= Some people I know are like this too, they know I'm asexual and I think they do it just began to makes me annoyed...
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I'm an asexual, had a friend who was pan-sexual. She would always say stuff like this to me.
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OMC This happens to me all the time!!! It's so... crazy! If I could fall in love, I might already have, but I've never been nor will I ever.Β
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A lot of people think Bi is just an excuse too. Like if they date same-sex "they were really in the closet that whole time." And if they date opposite sex "they were just going through a phase." Like you said, it's mostly because people don't understand it and are too stubborn or lazy to try.
I remember when I didn't understand Transexuals. My friend was trying to explain them to me. Oh god, I am so sorry to every last one of them.
Me: "So, they're people who can't afford a sex-change?"
Friend: "Well, sometimes yeah, but that's not the point!"
And, dude, I grew up with insanely religious parents and the first thing I ever said online was bashing people for shipping Roxas and Axel. I used 'gay' as an insult and went over how they can't possibly be more then friends. I sincerely apologize if anyone ever read that, I can't find the form again but Axel is obviously in love with Roxas.
At least I learned, though, and was completely open-minded in the end. Some people, though, I feel sorry for them sometimes.
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A friend of mine thought I was asexual for a while. I actually just hit puberty pretty late. When it finally ended and I showed interest in the opposite sex, I think she was the happiest person around.
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I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW MUCH I RELATE TO THIS!
I was everyone's object for gossip because they all wanted to put me in a romantic relationship, but they don't understand that I don't like people that way!
I want to be best friends with everyone! Not start eating someone's face!Β (which is whatΒ everyone else wishes upon me...)
I'm in that 1%... for sure. I really can't imagine myself ever wanting to date.
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"Not start eating someone's face!"Β I love this description of kissing. XD
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I can relate to the description so well XD I'm pansexual and whenever I tell someone I usually get one of three things:
1. Well, which one do you like better? Boys or girls?
2. Isn't that just bisexual?Β
3. You have sex with cooking pans?Β
People need to broaden their horizons a little...
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Sex with cooking pans XD
Damn, I can't stop laughing :'D
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I'm ace, and my boyfriend's a disinterested pan, so yes. c:
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MenollySagittaria Β : This is true. While some will engage in intercourse, it's not fulfilling to them as it is to the partner. It's a function of being human. There are other Aces, like myself who would prefer not to have sex at all and are open to having an open relationship to allow the partner to satisfy the natural urges with another if he/she so chooses.
Sexual orientation does not mean wanting sex. It simply means attraction on a physical and emotional level. Sex drive is a biological tool that many take for granted now and is often misinterpreted to be tied directly to an orientation, though it is not.
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also not meant to be offensive Dx just saying if it does.
Having an open relationship is great. Lot of trust involved especially if only the other one is having sex. And if it works perfectly for some then it's great! But I must admit/say that humans being sexual creatures they usually get easily attached to ppl they have sex with (just endorphines etc basic biology) which makes it a bit harder than a normal relationship. (but not any way harder/worse than a normal realtionship =w= )
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"how big is the chance to find a partner who will tolerate this"
Asexuals can and do have sex as compromise if they want a relationship.
But given the average person's inability to comprehend the concept of not being sexually attracted to anyone, they're likely to even further misinterpret an asexual actually *having sex . . .
And with the internet, finding another asexual is just a click away. (and later planning and moving, but hey)
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