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winterei In reply to Xavria [2014-03-22 01:43:42 +0000 UTC]

Go down to the 'thumb' thingy (to the right and under details), copy the code, and paste it where you want it uvu

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Zimmette-Stock In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-12 22:31:32 +0000 UTC]

If you really want to go down to the roots of marriage, it used to be the purpose of a man owning a woman. Fathers used to basically bribe a man to take his daughter because a daughter was no good to the family back in the day. So when the man took the woman, he married her which in turn was a type of ownership. Marriage is actually a very sexist and horrible thing if you get down to the roots of things. But that's not at all what it is anymore. So I don't understand if two men or two women want to get married, why is it an issue? In today's standards marriage is a legal union that two people share everything in life and in death, unless a will states otherwise, the surviving of the pair gets everything.

Honestly, my husband and I got married because we owned a house and were looking at other means of having children and didn't want to have different last names or problems with assets if one of us died. We loved each other just as much before we got married. We were together 10 years before we got married.

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette-Stock [2011-03-12 22:38:33 +0000 UTC]

That is terrible! Thank goodness the majority of society has gotten rid of this mentality.

I see your point, it does make sense especially now in the context of the modern day terminology of marriage. I thought marriage was more of a relationship that was confirmed by law and that was that! I guess if same-sex couples want to get married, they should be allowed to. I mean, what's the difference? I see none at all.

D'aww, that's so lovely! Kind of odd talking about all of this relationship stuff-I'm asexual!

I never really understood relationships or love; that's why I am asking.

Even for heterosexual relationships I can be confused about!

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Zimmette-Stock In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-12 23:31:31 +0000 UTC]

But relationships are so diverse! It's not even just the love between a man and a woman (or woman-woman, man-man). There's emotional relationships, sexual relationships, bonds or "soul mates", family relationships, friendships, I can go on and on! There's people out there that have such a close bond emotionally, but will go out to get sex someplace else because they can't get what they need from the person they have the emotional bond with.

I am a woman that has a sexual interest in other women. My husband has told me time and time again that he can not give me what another woman can and if I wish to seek sexual realations with a woman, he has no problem with it. However, in my mind, I can't get past to concept of it still be cheating. I see men and women as the same and if that's how I see them, then it would be the same emotionally if I were to go sleep with another man as it would as if I were to go sleep with a woman outside the relationship.

Relationships get really complicated when there's differing opinions and differing feelings. But, I guess it's all a matter of finding someone you share your opinion with to make things work out. I mean, with the differing of opinions that I stated between my husband and I, there's no problems. There's no action that can be taken that would hurt the other person. If the opinion was the other way around that I feel it's ok to go seek a woman and he says it's cheating, well, then we'd have a problem.

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette-Stock [2011-03-12 23:46:05 +0000 UTC]

I see, I am asexual and heteroromantic, but even the heteroromanticism is declining and turning into aromanticism, somewhat . I cannot fathom the idea of why anyone would want a sexual relationship with anyone else. It has never made sense to me.

If I was ever in a relationship hugging, holding hands and kisses on the cheek would be as far as that! No more! I find it so odd, all of the other sexual things like passionate kissing and such. I find it unappealing.

Your husband is a very open minded man , I can give you that! I can see why you married him in the end . So you are bisexual then, no? I have several friends who are bisexual . I understand friendships and family relations very well; but sexual relationships? Not my domain, I can give you that!

I'm quite oblivious as well. Mainly to things such as flirting, dropping hints, even supposedly sexual images (a.k.a shirtless men and women in bikinis). I feel nothing for them, sometimes I feel uncomfortable looking at them.

I am only attracted to people emotionally; I do have a few physical preferences, but they never come into action.

Would you ever seek another woman for a sexual relationship?

Heha, then there's the relationship theory of polygamy .

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Zimmette In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-14 05:25:44 +0000 UTC]

Well, there's the necessity of sexual relations for reproduction. But as for the need and want of a sexual relationship between two people, well, that goes different from person to person. There's not just sex between two people, there's a lot more that goes along with it. There's fetishes, toys, role playing, and not to mention whether people treat sex as a casual encounter or save their virginity for that one special someone.

I personally believe that sex strengthens my husband's and my relationship. You are your most vulnerable when naked and embraced in one another's arms. If you can trust one another then, you can trust one another with anything. My husband wasn't my first, but I was his. I have been with men and women (don't worry, it wasn't that many, nor do I or did I ever seek causal encounters). Since I've been with my husband, I've only had interest in one woman. I've been friends with her for years, but it has never gone that far - though, I have been given consent from my husband to do so.

As for polygamy, I don't think that's something for me. I'm certainly not against it as I have seen two different relationships work out extremely well. I certainly don't agree with the whole Mormon attitude of having a hundred wives and making sure they all have a hundred children by their seed. That's irresponsible procreation. In fact, I don't agree with having more than 2-3 kids - period! But that's a whole other topic of conversation.

I actually have two friends that seem to be asexual. They've never shown an interest to having a strong bond with another person in anyway. One friend I don't talk to anymore because she doesn't even hold friends dear. She just doesn't care for any relationship at all and prefers to be alone in life. I don't understand it, but it's her choice to live her life as she pleases. The down side to it, though, is that she has very poor social skills because of it. She doesn't know how to interact with people at all and is very awkward in public situations - yet she's a retail manager (I could never figure that one out, either).

It's funny you say about things making you uncomfortable to look at. I've never been fond of looking at men. There's very few men that I've seen that I find attractive. In the case of men, it really matters what's on the inside, to me. I have a hard time of seeing a man's outer beauty. I also feel uncomfortable at seeing naked men - EXCEPT for my husband. However, I could look at naked women till the cows come home. It's not necessarily a sexual arousal, I just find women attractive and pleasant to look at - naked or clothed. I find that women have a certain grace about them (not all, mind you).

Lol, I'm actually finding this all so very stimulating to talk about. I've never actually had a conversation on these topics with my friends who consider themselves asexual and it always intrigues me to learn how other people view the world through their eyes.

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette [2011-03-14 05:58:00 +0000 UTC]

I guess it is also the fact that I don't like to appear vulnerable. In a sexual, intimate relationship you are becoming vulnerable by exposing yourself to another person. Also, I feel that I need secrets, if I do not have secrets I cannot function. I feel exposed greatly. Possibly another reason as to why I am not big on the idea of a sexual relationship.

I see, does she know that you have this interest in her? It would be mighty awkward if she didn't, in my opinion anyway. A bisexual friend of mine claimed that she had a little crush on me, I felt mighty awkward about that. But she didn't change the way she acted around me because of that and I didn't treat her any differently . I couldn't care less if she, or any of my other friends, were homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, transsexual and all of that other complicated sexuality stuff. As long as they are good people, I'm totally fine with it!

I've always seen polygamy as being something for those who can multi-task incredibly well! I mean, how else are you going to give all the other lovers what they want? Whether it be sexually or emotionally. I guess it is the idea of breeding for the Mormons that practice this part of their religion; because surely not all of them participate in polygamy.

I am not too sure about polygamy, but then again I have not seen nor experienced a polygamous relationship.

Haha, I've always loved that expression-till the cows come home . I think it is the curves that bring the viewers attention in. But I have to say, if I had a sense of sexuality it'd have to be men. I love angular, rigid things and frequently draw male characters because of this. I like it when they're tall and lanky, pretty cool in my opinion! It's difficult to find that in female body shapes and it isn't as angular or good looking as a male.

So am I! I speak about these things with my friends but not to this extent!

Well asexuality takes a long while to discover! At first I believed I was homosexual because of people saying that if you weren't interested in the opposite sex then you were gay . But then I found out "Wait a minute...I don't find girls attractive ". Then I went back to thinking I was straight, until I found out that I didn't like to look at men or women. And then, I discovered the term of asexuality.

Despite what some critics might say-that it is because one is afraid of being in a relationship or for religious/cultural reasons. Not in my case! Never was! You just don't feel this deep connection with people like others do. It is simply not there! And it isn't a neurotic problem either. Also because I do not value sex; it isn't important to me, to me it doesn't represent the ultimate action of love. Just a reason to share the same bed really.

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Zimmette In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-14 06:32:49 +0000 UTC]

Ok, truth time! I'm glad I now know whether you're a man or a woman, lol! I had no clue up until now. Kinda makes it easier to talk about things when you know, but I was afraid to ask (I don't know why I get so shy about asking that sort of thing!). I guess it was easy to tell for me from my original comments on my stamp because I said I was married and couldn't bare children. Men can't exactly give birth. Also, I'll give you another piece of information about me: I'm 29 this June, married for 1 year in April and with my husband for 11 years in April (we married on our tenth year anniversary of the day we started going out).

As for the woman I'm interested in, yes, she does know. She's known pretty much the whole time I had an interest in her. I take out a lot of the sexual repression for that in my artwork, though. She reciprocates as well. So the relationship is rather mutual in that respect. It's certainly not one sided, but indeed held back. Also kinda makes it hard that she lives over an ocean and we don't see each other that often. But, it's ok. We've had this relationship for a good 8-9 years already. Something must be right if we're still close, lol!

I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with not being interested in another person in that way! Certainly clears up complications of having feelings for more than one person at a time! Your way is much easier to deal with. As for sex being the ultimate action of love, I do not believe in that either. Sex is fleeting while love should last forever. What if the person you're in a relationship with cannot function in that way? You can find sex somewhere else, but love you can't find just anywhere. If tomorrow my husband suddenly couldn't have sex anymore, but loved me just as much as today, he would not expect me to never have sex again if he could not provide that to me. That's not the root of our love at all. We share everything from the bedroom, to the finances, to the hobbies, to all of our friends. We have a much stronger relationship than most married couples and we are envied a lot for it. The only place in life that we are separated are that he goes to work and I am a stay at home house wife. We spend all of our free time together and don't rip our hair out for it. Don't get me wrong, we do fight. I don't think any relationship is healthy if you don't argue over something once in a while. It relieves stress. Relationships that don't relieve stress tend to fall apart.

So let me ask you this: if you do not seek in that certain connection with people, do you never need to confide in anyone? What about close relationships with friends? How close do you [let yourself] get to people? What do you do if someone does try to get close to you, like that? I know you said you are oblivious to certain things, but has anyone just come right out and said they wanted a relationship with you? I know you said someone told you they crushed on you, but how did you deal with that? I am very curious.

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette [2011-03-14 07:32:10 +0000 UTC]

Aha, the reason I didn't show my gender publicly was because I was wondering whether people could figure out my real gender just by talking to someone. But yes, I am female.

Aww, that's so nice! Pretty accurate about the dates, huh?

Aha, so that's why your art work is like that. It all makes sense now! So you are both on good terms, close and understand each other. Isn't that something that is close to love?

That's lovely! But don't you get bored at home? I agree, relationships of any form must have a few arguments and debates within them here and there. It shows that the relationship is healthy; as long as these arguments aren't hurtful or go down with deeper feelings of hate and all of those horrid things.

Of course I need to confide in people and I do. Usually with friends, but now that I think about it I usually forget to confide with them. But yes, I do share secrets sometimes, but not all of them to one person. Each friend gets a little bit of each. I do not ever blurt out the whole thing to one person-not even my family! My father says-"Everyone needs a secret" and I agree with that .

I love to help people out and do not mind at all becoming close to them as friends! I try to be the best person I can for a friend. I do love my friends, but not in that way. I am not physically or emotionally attracted to them for an intimate relationship. My friends are hug-enthusiasts so I give them hugs all the time . I don't mind because I know hugging makes people feel better and it is a sign if care and affection .

I only let myself get to people closely if I feel there may be a need to. If I feel that the person may be that of the manipulative kind I don't give out a lot of valued information-if any valuable information at all! I have to wait and watch the person first, see how they behave and if they lie a lot. I analyse people and I can usually feel when someone is manipulating me.

Ahahaha, my friends are like that towards me! They want me to have a boyfriend . They know I am asexual and frequently joke about how I would deprive my boyfriend of sexual needs-"Do not kiss me, NO KISSING! Now, discuss mental illness with me!" . The jokes are along those lines. They ask me if I have any preferences. I usually fall for cartoon boys because of their personality and then that develops into a physical like-but never, ever enough to have sexual fantasies of males, real or fiction. I am the weird one in my group of friends-incredibly odd, it's just how I am!

I would feel flattered if someone wanted to be in a relationship with me, if they had asked right out. However, I wouldn't be interested and then think about why in the world would they want to be in a relationship with me. I'd feel unprepared and very awkward, I hate to upset people and I know that rejecting people for offers like that tends to hurt them. However, I would tell them I was not interested in being in a relationship and reassure them it is not because of them but because I am simply not interested.

Aha, well it was only like a quick thing she said and then seemed to brush it off. I think she was a little embarrassed to say that-like any person would be. I wasn't so shocked because I had suspected it right from the start . She likes to be around me and frequently says she loves me . But she has a boyfriend who she is more interested in and more intimate with .

It's good to be curious, ask away! I do not mind at all .

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Zimmette In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-14 08:36:08 +0000 UTC]

You say everyone needs a secret, I guess I'm much too open! I am rather blunt and show my feelings - sometimes too quickly! Maybe it's because I can be a very passionate person and take things to heart right away. Even this conversation we've been having, I'm just enamored with it! It's interesting and I feel that I can say anything right now and it still be respected and that you take an interest in it as much as I do! I find it exciting and stimulating to say the least.

As for my lady and I, I would call it love. We say "I love you" to each other at the end of every conversation just like my husband and I. It's not the same kind of love, but it definitely is love. It's an interesting relationship the two of us have, but like I said previously, it works and works well.

And the bored at home part, not a chance! We own a nice sized house with a decent sized lot and have 3 cats and 2 dogs (pets kinda replacing children type deal since having children is not in the cards right now). I do all the house work such as laundry and cleaning, as well in the summer time I take care of the yard and keep a garden. I get a little stir crazy in the winter, but in general I like to have my alone time. I'm kind of anti-social and don't have much self confidence. When it comes to taking care of my own thing, I'm proud and feel like a stronger person that I can do a good job at something. The reason I don't work is because I have Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome and get really bad periods where I bleed a lot and am in a lot of pain. You can't really go to your employer and say you need one week off a month because your on your rag. I do take under the table jobs for graphic design, though. I used to manage a print room as well as be the head graphic designer at an advertising firm for a couple of years, so I still have clients that hang around and trust my work. I don't take on too many, though because it gets too stressful, sometimes. I much prefer to take care of my own business than other people's.

I had to laugh and think of something when I read your "NO KISSING" thing. It's silly, but I may have an interest in sex, but I'm not a big fan of kissing. A peck on the lips is fine, but I really don't like long sloppy kisses. That's something that drives my husband nuts cause he's always chasing after me for kisses. I guess when I do give in, it makes it more special for him because it's something he doesn't get very often. I'm also not a big fan of hugging. In general, I don't like people touching me. The only exceptions I make are those very close to me, and even then, it doesn't happen that often. My first long relationship I had, the most we did was hold hands. We were really close, but I just didn't want to be intimate with him in that way. I was really young then, too, but even now I can't imagine being intimate with just anyone. With my husband and my lady, there's that extra bond which makes them the exceptions. But again, I may want it with my lady, but I don't act upon it over personal ethics. The most that was done when I was with her was just sleep cuddled together. It made me happy enough.

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? Have you decided that for sure that this is your path in life, or are you still on the road to discovery? Do you think that you'd ever actually meet someone who you could connect with at that level? I'm not saying that you should or anything, just wondering if you think your views and feelings could still change. Hell, I still don't trust my own views to be the same the rest of my way through life. They've already changed dramatically in even just the last 5 years. I'm always learning and experiencing something new that effects me. I used to be shy and introverted, now I'm a blunt and a loud mouth. I used to love going out to clubs and movies and such but now I prefer to stay home or go to a friend's house instead of public stuff. Hell, even this is stepping out on a limb for me. But it intrigues me so much that two people could just so randomly start a deep conversation. I just can't help but keep the conversation going. You seem smart and like you know what you're talking about. You seem to have it together and are just pleasant to talk to. You even use mostly proper sentence structure (I do not claim to write well, I just prefer talking to people that dn't tlk liek dis). It's just all around awesome, lol!

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette [2011-03-15 11:59:31 +0000 UTC]

I do apologise for taking a while to reply! I haven't had the time. I am passionate about certain topics but I am not big on the idea of Love. I have no experience in it. So do I! Haha, I will not judge you at all, so as you wish! I love this conversation we're having .

I'm glad it it working out for you both. There are a fair few people in this world that this sort of relationship wouldn't work out with.

I used to not like being touched, at all. However, that's hard to avoid with friends who want a hug after every conversation . They're very affectionate. I hate to get stressed, it affects my physical health a lot. Especially since I suffer from anxiety.

My periods are very irregular. I only get mine three times a year! No pill is going to be fixing that up . I won't allow it! I've had an ultrasound done, no tumours or anything like that, so all is good .

I don't understand kissing passionately really. It's squeamish, in my opinion. So many bacteria! Once you find out how many there are on your lips alone that is enough to turn you off from it! I've also got to thinking that passionate kissing looks like romantic cannibalism. Kind of hard to go for a kiss when thinking about that !

Awww, that's lovely! Nah, I don't like to cuddle up for sleeping. Don't know why though.

I do not wish to tell, but I am more than happy for you to guess . I don't mind at all, even if you get it wrong .

For the asexuality, yes I have. Because it has always been there and I do not want to be in an intimate relationship. I like to watch happy couples from afar though; a lovely sight . I do not envy them, though, never did. Last year was my year of personal discovery. I found out a fair bit about myself and am almost complete. I am just realising the finishing touches of understanding myself such as why I like or dislike certain things.

I don't think I would ever find the person-I'm not even sure if they are out there! I wouldn't be comfortable though, not at all. It's just...that I like to be left alone. I have my family and my friends and that is all I will need! I do not think about self-esteem; I am not ashamed nor proud of myself. Self-esteem only causes trouble, brings nothing good, in my opinion anyway.

I have discovered a lot about myself in the past five years as well. A lot of things. And realising that my thinking was never really that normal. I used to be extremely paranoid and distrusting. Very angry too. Not anymore, I feel much better, but I do have my downs from time to time, like yesterday for example.

I am quite loud but I know when to shush. I am an observer and learn from watching others. I was never shy, just quite odd and awkward.

I think that is because you are getting into the mature years. I know because several people have gone through that. Some of my cousins are in their thirties and used to go out and all that stuff. But then when they hit that age, or around that age, they became calmer and content with the simpler things in life. They still like to go out and do those sorts of things from time to time but not on a regular basis.

I know, eh? Very random, hehe . I try to get these sorts of things going with other people-you are very easy to talk to and very open as well!

I agree, let this conversation go on!

Aww, thank you! Yes, I do like to type using correct sentence structure, it is just a preference of mine.

I enjoy it when people give me feedback as to how they see me; this is because I can tell if it is the thing that I want people to see in me or if they have different opinions and views, etc.

You are very open and your words seem soft. I feel this vibe when I see you reply to any of my comments! Soft as in nice and feminine, in a way. I'm trying to explain it but it is a little difficult to do so, either way I hope it makes a little sense .

I don't like misspellings. However, I know the person has trouble with spelling I leave it be.

Absolutely epic, eh?

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Zimmette In reply to The-Laughing-Lunatic [2011-03-15 16:29:35 +0000 UTC]

Well, let's see... since you seem to be new on your discovery on life, I would wager you to be in your later teens - say 18, 19. However, you seem very mature with how you speak, so I could guess you being in your early 20s. Also, I'm taking a stab in the dark that you live in Europe. It's all in how you write that makes me guess that. Writing things like "practising" and "coulour" (damn, the American spell checker in my browser telling me those words are spelled wrong). I have it written on my profile where I'm from, so a guessing game doesn't work all that well for me, lol!

As for your period being that irregular, that's one of my symptoms. I never had a regular period and just never went to the doctor. One day, I started bleeding so much and was rushed off to the emergency room. I was diagnosed then. There's not necessarily anything visible in an ultra sound to know that you have PCOS. I was put on birth control to regulate a period to try and get a cycle if I want to have kids. Right now I'm off of them because I just get too crazy of cramps when I'm on them. Not on the pill, it's months between periods. My regular doctor and my "lady" doctor both have conflicting opinions and diagnoses on what to do, but that's understandable since there's a lot to be learned still from this disease. Some people just need to go on the pill for a couple of months to get them regular and then go off of it, boom! They're pregnant. We haven't tried the more extreme measures yet, but there's no way I can get pregnant just on the fly. We both have a nagging fear in the back of our minds that if we go through fertility clinics or start taking hormones, we'll end up being like one of those circus acts on TV. My doctor assured me that there is a higher rate of twins going through this procedure, but not more. We want one child, maybe two... not eight. I don't want to be the next octo-mom, thank you very much!

Anyways, I got a bit off track to getting to the point of you maybe looking up what I have. It's fairly common in women and wanting children or not, can lead to some other health risks later on. It's closely related to type 1 diabetes, as well. The hormone imbalance somehow can screw with your insulin levels. I didn't have some of the harder-to-live-with symptoms until I reached my mid 20s. That's when I was rushed to the ER because of the bleeding. It seemed like all the most awful symptoms hit me shortly after that point. The worse is probably the weight. I gained it super fast and then I hit a point where I don't gain or lose. And it's likely I never will. Doesn't matter how healthy I eat, or how much I exercise, I have to live with it. It's all to do with having higher testosterone and my body saying that this is the weight it should be. So yeah, take a look at the Wiki article. It might be worth your time to do so: [link]

As for spelling, I'm not so bad with it. Type-os on the other hand, well, I certainly suck for that! The nice thing is, I use Chrome and at least it has a built in spellchecker. Unfortunately, sometimes the type-os are legitimate words and don't get pointed out. That's ok, though. It happens.

Hm, being alone... I don't think I could imagine that at this point in life. I've spent my entire adult life with my husband. I dated other people in high school, and all, but he was my first true love. All the other people I was with were just flings. Though, I will admit that it took me a long while to realize that he was the one. We broke up at around the 2-3 year mark and I started seeing someone else. It was definitely a rebound situation. He was a really nice guy and treated me like gold. Honestly, I was really shocked with myself that someone like me attracted this guy just out of the blue. I was extraordinarily good looking, kind and sweet. Don't get me wrong, my husband is all these things too, but the difference being, I feel (both now and back then) that when I met my husband, I was at my peak of physical appearance. When I met this guy, I was already a bit overweight and was working three jobs at the time, so in my opinion, looked very run down. But, to this day I still regret what I did to him - I slept with him and then never called him back. I got scared because the night I spent with him, I knew at that point that it was my husband that I wanted to be with and no one else. I was still fairly young and my emotions were still running crazy. I didn't know what I wanted in life for anything: love, occupation, where I lived. It was a really confusing time for me, but sleeping with another man, turned on a light, you know? But like I said, it was horrible what I did to him. This guy was completely head over heels for me and I just blew him off.

Not long after, my husband and I got back together and shortly after that, we decided to try some couples counseling. In the end, we became closer simply because the counselor was a useless twat and we agreed on that and moved on together.

Our relationship was very bad the first few years we were together. I really don't know why we stuck it out with one another. But you know what? I wouldn't take it back for the world. All the fighting and lying we did to one another, well, it made us stronger. We fought because we were living our own lives and trying to be together at the same time. One day, something just snapped and we realized that we a single unit and don't work well as individuals. Neither one of us would know how to even function without the other, right now. It's a mutual dependency where we both have our tasks and roles that the other doesn't do but we need for survivability. On one hand it's great that we function together so well, but on the other, if something were to happen to one of us, the other would be in a very bad way.

I just have a hard time even imagining what it would be like to be alone. But I do understand there's people out there that want it to be that way. Even if I had never met my husband, there have been many other people along the way that have shown that kind of interest in me. I wouldn't have ended up alone, at all.

So here's some questions: do you believe in love at first sight? How about the concept of soul mates?

I don't believe in love at first site, but after the experiences in life with my husband, I do believe in soul mates. I'm not a religious person by any means, but I don't know what else to label that feeling, other than soul mate.

I think it's funny that you say I sound feminine. In day to day life, I'm so far from it! I hate being feminine. I just find it uncomfortable. I often tell my husband that he's with a gay man trapped inside a woman's body. I don't do dresses, I don't do pink, I don't do girl night out things... I prefer to sit and play video games with the guys.

I recently had to go to a bridal shower for a friend of mine. I was so freaked out and anxious that I had to go sit with a bunch of women my age. I have nothing in common with most women. Right now, I have two girl friends (aside from my Lady over the ocean). Even them, I don't have much in common with. But we still connect on some levels. They still do things that are a bit too girlie for me and make me uncomfortable. When I'm hanging with the guys, I feel right. I have a sailor's mouth and fit right in with their guy things. I can talk about cars and video games. I'll look at women and compare them with what the other guys have see (though my best friend is gay, so that part is only when I'm with my straight/bi friends).

Here's an interesting thing that happened to give a bit of an example as to how I am: two years ago, Valentine's Day, my husband and I decided that we needed new computer monitors and that's what we would do as our Valentine's gift to one another. So we went to the store and picked out a really nice matching pair and bought them and took them home. We were so happy and pleased with it, it couldn't have been a better Valentine's Day. One of his co-workers asked him what we did for Valentine's Day and he told him. The guy flipped out and said he had better buy me some flowers or something because there was no way that was a good gift for Valentine's that I was probably hiding that I was pissed off. I laughed so hard when he came home and told me that. I just feel sorry for people like that that are stuck in that kind of relationship.

Another of the guys at his work was telling him one day about how his wife wouldn't let him set up his surround sound in the living room because she didn't want to see it. My husband turned around and told him that I was the one in our house that had to have the best and most awesome for electronics and that I insisted on getting and then setting up the surround sound in our house. The guy's jaw dropped when my husband told him that I picked out the pieces for our entertainment system as well as that I was the person to buy the gaming consoles and all that. Screw that, man! If that's what being a woman is all about, I surely don't want to be one!

Bah! I have to cut things short ("short" lol!). Must run off to drive a friend to the doctor's.

Speak soon!

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The-Laughing-Lunatic In reply to Zimmette [2011-03-19 10:50:37 +0000 UTC]

Really? Fascinating insight, I have to say! I'll tell you, but only if you hide the comment that I confide my age to you, please. I do not live in Europe though.

I've been to the doctor for it, they're looking into it and I should be going there but I haven't. I should mention this syndrome to them. I remember a friend of mine told me something similar to this, but she never provided a name for it.

It is understandable for the doctors to be debating over this issue. I am not known to anything of the reproductive system, so I cannot place my opinion. For muscle aches and pains, headaches and mental afflictions I can, but nothing for things such as periods or anything to do with reproduction. Well, I have siblings...I suggest you should have two children. Develops a character in both of them, they won't be lonely. On the other hand, they will argue. But this can solely depend on how you raise them, you have already two cats and three dogs, do correct me if I am wrong, the children will grow well, if treated well. You and your husband show great love and respect for each other and are both open minded people. If you do ever decide to have children, please, teach them your ways and accept them for whoever they turn out to be. That's all they ever want and that will be all they will ever want.

I've recently updated and am now using Mozilla Firefox, it's alright but can be annoying as I uploaded the US version and it keeps underlining the words that I spell correctly! (In my case)

Typos irritate me beyond belief! Especially when I make them .

Eugh, love at first sight? Never, you can never truly fall in love at first sight, or even with a first partner/intimate relationship. You need some experience and an idea of what you are looking for in a person. This can be achieved if you are currently in a relationship, have in been in a few relationships or are admiring someone from afar, slowly finding out about them by observing, thinking and hearing them and others speak about them.

I love to have friends around, I love my friends a lot. I can never bring myself to be intimate with them, nor do I have the ability to. They mean a lot to me . Wasn't it scary? When you slept with the other man and after that realising the 'mistake', if you want to call it that. I'd find that terrifying. A sudden realisation that just hits you, unexpectedly.



I need to state that there is a difference between being religious and being spiritual. This concept of soul mates is more spiritual than religious. Spirituality and Religion are two whole different things, but they intertwine often due to misunderstanding or because that is how the end product turns out to be.

Hmm, yes, I do believe in soul mates. That one compliments the other, both working in harmony, never neglecting, the fact that they need each other. So yes, I do. And I believe you have found your soul mate

This goes back to when you said that when you and your husband both started out you were both conflicting and arguing, lying a lot too. Because you were two soul mates who were ignoring the attraction and destiny that was meant for the both of you. To be together. See? What I had just stated was spiritual, not religious.

A gay man trapped inside a woman's body-that analogy wins. Big time . I dislike being feminine or feeling feminine, but what I do love is elegance and formality. I do not like to be girly, I do not like to conform myself to the label of tomboy either. My father calls me that often, I don't mind though. I am just being myself and that is all! I like to play sports and I like sandals, I love art, I love graffiti art, disgusting things, monsters, surreal things and surreal humour. I like studs, leather, lace, piercings (I only have three, all in my ears, no I don't want anymore . Also, I only usually like this feature to be seen in characters), I do not wear make-up or earrings, but I do wear dresses and skirts.

This is me, not a tomboy, not a girly girl. Just me.

I never had the attention span to stay dedicated or focused on continuing a video game. I like those combat video games, and those freelance games that give you scenarios or areas that allow you to access them and complete the game at your own pace. I like to be around anyone who's willing to listen to me and those who make me laugh and think. I do not have a gender preference for friends-but I do have expectations for behaviour and such.

I dislike cars and the watching of sports, but I'm not interested in the girly things like fashion or whatever it is they talk about. I dislike vulgar language and swearing. Just not my thing and I avoid it whenever I can, even when I am angry, upset or hurt, I do not swear.

I'm usually the one criticizing both genders and not taking on their physicality, but the type of mentality that they might possess.

Awww, what a quirky little Valentine's for you both! I love quirky romances and gifts . If I ever wanted a Valentine gift, I'd wish to laugh like I had never laughed before and to not be spoiled but for my partner to give love to those who need it.

My mother is very independent. She's the handy woman around the house and fixes doors, buys electronics, goes fishing, assists the family, cooks, cleans, is very strong and very wise. My father calls her a tomboy, too!

I do not like women like that-who think in such ways. Doesn't seem right.

That was a very lengthy reply! So I couldn't reply sooner, I have been busy . You must type very quickly if you can call this 'short' .

Will do!

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Zimmette-Stock In reply to audse [2011-03-12 16:33:57 +0000 UTC]

Thank you kindly.

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Zimmette-Stock In reply to Pepamint [2011-03-12 16:33:47 +0000 UTC]

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Blood-Soaked In reply to LunarMancer [2018-07-17 01:11:19 +0000 UTC]

Lol,breeders.

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