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the last part about a man needing a woman, i agree with in the sense: men should need women and vice versa dammit FUCK DOUBLE STANDARDS SHIT!
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I'm a girl and I agree with you, ST.
I just don't know when society will realize that we *all* are equals.... ):
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I can never stand anyone who tells a guy to "suck it up", yet fights against gender roles/double standards.
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i believe the last two to be untrue. =\
but, youve got your points. +nod+
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That's why you fight them and hope they go away.
There are plenty double standards for race and I plan to fight them every single day when I go into politics.
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Here's to these double standards being recognized by enough people that something changes.
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AT the same time it's really a double edged sword isn't it? i mean a woman with many friends is an attention hound. a guy with many friends is popular. an insensitive woman is a bitch or a dike, an incentive man is normal. A woman who'd had sex is a whore, a man who's had sex is just a guy. a women is more likely to stab another woman in the back that a guy and his guy friend (yes you may not have your guy friend there when your hurting but he also wont be the one stabbing.)
as for the need comment everyone needs companionship, its a necessity of life like food and air.
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We're really no more than animals.
Humans are so cruel...
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Hmm, as a woman, I agree on that. I've seen a lot of guys- good men, just blown off or ignored because they should 'suck it up'.
Here's hoping that changes a little. One wrong doesn't make a million wrongs and even a million wrongs don't make one right, wrong.
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anything can be turned into a bad thing by judgamental people, a lonely woman is a spinster even if she's young, a woman who needs a men is setting women back to the last century, a sensitive woman is histerical or pmsing, is hard to tune out all the noise but is worth the try just be who you are and there will be someone who wont judge.
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Just like most stereotypes... I don't buy it... It is ALL CRAP. Every single person is different. You can't actually truly generalize everyone into categories... because once you get down to the individual level, even people in the same section are very, VERY, different.
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well...guys have a harder life so...i would say, I'm happy with being a girl
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I really believe this. Thank you for leaving me with something to think about.
But...as a teenage female virgin, I am looked down upon as a virgin. I feel horrible that I am one, but I know I'd probably regret it either way - Either untouched and feeling left out, or had sex with someone whom would later hurt me. So yeah, I'm feeling I got the better benefit of the doubt.
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i don't see it that way, um, if a guy actaully talks about his feelings around me, i think he's pretty manly
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Society has lots of double standards. Keep on pointing them out and acting against them! It's the only way to get rid of them. So well done for doing something!
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Maybe it's based on where you live. Anyway, here is a fun fact: there are male male, male female, female female, and female male. Most of us have a little bit of male and female in us. For instance, I'm female male. Sure, society might seem a little bias, but that's what we have to conquer together. Still, in a lot of places women can't be tough (they're a dyke). Women belong in the house/kitchen (because they are the ones to take care of the kids). And women STILL get paid less than men. The fact is, we all have to work together to overcome stereotypes.
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Another one I've noticed is that girls can experiment with girls, but can still be straight.
A guy experiments he's immediately gay
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well, if it's any comfort
I greatly disagree with society when it comes to these things.
I'd much rather have a sensitive man than a "manly" one.
And I feel terrible when anyone's lonely, no matter the gender.
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Because men put themselves out there like that.
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But you see, you're looking at things from the male perspective. Flip it, and you'll find that some women are less tolerant of social stigma than most men are.
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This is stupid down to the core.
I can understand the virgin thing but nothing else.
Every single one of my friends left me in the worst of situations and when it comes to all my boyfriend's guy friends they all help him out whenever he needs it. I have never seen such good guy friends. Even my guy friends give me a hand when I am down. My female friends could fucking care less.
I have heard of the sensitive thing before but that only came out of this one guy my boyfriend does not hang out with anymore. He said that because my boyfriend cried when we got into fights he was a pussy. I told him to listen up because I was only saying it once a real man cries a fake pussy ass man acts like he is better than everyone else and covers up his tears. Society I don;'t believe where I live is all that doubled standard other than race but I feel for you if it is like that where you live.
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i say prove them wrong 
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You're utterly correct. Even though I am a woman, I agree with you- the world treats us as though we're fragile and easily destroyed, but you...you men have it harder than we do, socially, by far. If you're not having sex every day and night, there's something wrong with you. If you spend too much time in a teenage or young adult relationship, you get ridiculed for not playing the field.
In my life, even though I'm straight, I like to be "one of the guys." I don't like people thinking I need to be handled with care- I can handle myself, thanks. Yeah, I've got a lot of issues under my belt. Yeah, I cry. Yeah, I need help from other girls to sort out my problems sometimes. On a typical basis, though, it's you men I turn to for most advice I get. You're absolutely BRILLIANT on many subjects. And then other times, me and my guy friends have little therapy sessions, where all of us talk about the problems we have with family, the economy, or relationships, and everyone sorts them out together with an equal input from both men and women.
So you see, ST, even though that's what society says is correct behavior, there are still people out there rebellious enough to FEEL, instead of ACT. You just have to find them.
-Sam
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And I respect men who are sensitive, lonely, or a virgin.
I'm sorry that some people in society have a problem with that.
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Something I notice is that a lot of fat men are accepted easier than fat women. When a girl is fat it's disgusting. When a man is fat, it's funny. When a girl is skinny, she's anorexic or bulimic, if a guy is skinny he's cool looking. I don't feel like it's "equally hard on men" I must say. I still believe women have it much harder.
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"Fat men aren't fat;Only fat women are fat".
I hate how that works, I really do.
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I know. Everyone's always talking about how hard it is to be a woman (which it is), but no one seems to pay enough attention to how hard it is to be a man. If a woman does something slightly off the beaten path, it's interesting. If a man does, they're "gay". /rant
There are many people out there who'd sympathize.
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I agree, sometimes society favors the female sex in ways that are so easily overlooked.
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and those rules are why the women who fit the double standards can never find a guy they like. Nice men are too nice and overlooked, and the "good" men are pretentious, insensitive, and can't deal with their own emotions, much less a woman's.
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fuck societies standards. I always thought most of them were ridiculous.
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Yeah, I hate society's standards. Why can't we all just live and let live?
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I don't believe any of that for one moment. My husband constantly tells me he needs me, and I believe it.
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With you, he isn't bound by the same constraints as he is with the rest of society.
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Yeah, except that he doesn't care who is around when he says it, so he's exposed to 'society' just as much as the next person.
The only way people are going to get over "society's stereotypes" is we ignore them and change them ourselves.
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"ignore them and change" That's not always as easy as it sounds, but you're right, that is the way to do it, at least for the people who can.
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